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Hey, it's your girl simply Shinika,

and you are now listening to The Goddess Confessions.

The most powerful thing I ever did was forgive the people who hurt and abused me, and I'm not

saying that lightly. I've lived through some of the most diabolical things a woman can experience,

but even after all of that, I still chose forgiveness. It's about protecting my heart instead of

letting anyone or anything turn me into a

monster. I refuse to let pain twist my heart into something cold and hard. I didn't wake up one

random morning, suddenly healed and enlightened. I had nights where I cried so hard, my chest

physically hurt, days where I dissociated through everything, times where I questioned if life would ever feel normal.

Getting to this place didn't happen overnight. I couldn't even talk about forgiveness until I started to heal my inner child and become whole

enough to see others in the same light. A lot of us experienced extremely traumatic things

in childhood. And when trauma happens that young, the subconscious steps in and buries it deep

within us. So we're able to try to function that's the thing

the subconscious holds and stores everything it's the dark scary place we don't want to visit

because it requires us to face the things we are afraid of get real about the the truth, release, and still feel like we have a

sense of self. Healing made me remember things. I thought I had forgotten. It made me sit with

memories that made me physically sick. But that was the only way I could finally face the truth.

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