Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Are you negotiating with imaginary thoughts?

Oh, we've all done this.

Maybe in fact you're doing it right now.

What you want to do to have a calm, steady life in

reality is stop guessing thoughts that don't exist, specifically thoughts of other people.

It's really interesting to me because I think a lot of us replay conversations, maybe

work conversations or dating conversations

or conversations with friends. And what's interesting is if two people have a conversation,

often they have completely different memories as to what was even said and shared. So when you're

replaying something in your mind, what you're actually doing is creating fiction.

Good or bad, that's up to you with how you are feeling right now.

But what if you're creating suffering, imagining awkward things that were said or things that you shouldn't have shared or mistakes that you made?

What if you're imagining all of that and the other person doesn't even

recall it or remembers it differently? Are you making up stories and hurting your own feelings?

Another reality here is just understanding that all judgment is a form of projection. So however we're feeling in the moment,

we're going to replay conversations, replay things that other people have said, replay past

comments based on how we're feeling for confirmation that how we're feeling is real and fair.

My friends, think about it. You can walk around imagining all these silent verdicts.

When people are just completely absorbed in themselves, they're not thinking you're silly or

not attractive or annoying. They're just trying to make it through the week like everybody else.

Pay the visible. Feed the cat. Don't burn the

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