I am Mission Laciani, founder of Mind Valley, the School for Human Transformation.

You're listening to the Mind Valley podcast where we'll be bringing you the greatest teachers

and thought leaders on the planet to discuss the world's most powerful ideas and personal growth for mind, body, spirit, and work.

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This episode features a remarkable woman by the name of Esther Parrell and odds are you've heard of Esther because her two Ted talks on Ted.com have received a combined 17 million views. I've seen Esther speak at many massive events such as Summit

Series and her sessions are always filled to the brim, literally a waiting line

outside the door and so I knew I had to bring Esther to Mind Valley's

event a-fest when it happened in Ibiza in 2017 on the theme of love and

relationships because her ideas on this subject are revolutionary.

It opens us up to this challenging thing we face in our modern world.

Love, Relationships, Monogamy.

For this particular podcast, you're going to listen to Esther's talk from AFES.

In this particular talk, she tackles one of the biggest struggles couples face in today's

modern romantic relationships, which is how do we satisfy the

opposing needs we all deeply crave. You see, we crave intimacy, we crave love, but we also crave adventure, we crave

variety, and so we're in this bizarre state of relationships where we want a partner to give us stability, to give us

consistency, to give us love, but at the same time we want variety. We get bored

by the same thing happening over and over again. Now couples that learn to to work with these

dynamically opposed forces have, according to Esther, the healthiest relationships.

These opposing forces are the reason why so many couples say that their relationship

has lost its spark.

Listen to this profound advice from Esther Perraille, because it may shift the way you look at

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