Every season for where should we begin, I receive thousands of applicants.

And one of the most frustrating things is that I'm only going to be able to see 10 couples.

And I've been grappling with this.

How can I connect with more of you?

There are so many powerful questions, so many pain points that I would like to be able

to at least address with you even if shortly.

So this series is going to be different.

It's you calling me with a very precise question, with your pain point, me calling you back

and together we think out loud.

And we go from where should we begin to where can you start?

Hi Esther, I just have a question for you today about setting boundaries and friendships.

And if the setting those boundaries might mean the end of a friendship.

So two friends of mine are in a relationship and have been for a long time, as long as I've

known them.

And they have what I would call a dysfunctional relationship and that one is good, it's great.

They go through these really difficult lows.

And because I am friends with both of them, I end up getting both sides of the story quite

often.

And it can be incredibly draining.

And I want to set in place boundaries, that's a listen.

I'm not your therapist.

I'm not your relationship counselor.

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