The universe has good news for the lost, lonely, and heart sick.

Sugar is here, the both of us, speaking straight into your ears.

I'm Cheryl Strade.

I'm Steve Almond. This is Dear Sugar Radio.

Oh dear song, won't you please?

Share some little sweet days with me.

I check my bell by every day.

Oh, and this sugar, you see in my way.

Hi Steve. Hi Cheryl. How are you?

I'm doing great. Actually, truthfully, I haven't been worrying something and I've been trying to figure out which way I should go with this.

And in fact, Aaron and I have been worrying together. This sounds so silly.

But we are having some boundary issues around our property and our home because we're like Lucy Goosey and all the kids from neighborhood come and play on our messy backyard that we do not take care of at all.

That's kind of the point where our kids are running inside with some complaint or another and we're realizing, hey, people just walk into our yard all the time.

And the thing we noticed in our own weird self-involved ways, everybody else on the street, every other person has a fence.

And bearing in mind, good fences make good neighbors.

Like we suddenly realize, oh, we need a fence. We need a physical barrier. But then inside of me, I had the feeling that was wait a second.

That's against my ethos of, you know, I don't want to put up fences. I'm all about taking fences down.

And if there are boundaries, they should be emotional and psychological, not physical. So I'm trying to figure out whether with Aaron, whether we should build a fence, whether we should actually put that barrier up.

Yes. You should. Just like that.

Absolutely. I have no doubt. And here's why that fence, obviously you invite people into that fence, into the other side of that fence sometimes.

And so what it is, it's really, if you have that emotional and psychological boundary, the physical fence is just proof of that.

You're saying, this is my home and you are welcome to it, but you need an invitation. You need permission.

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