Episode 99: Listener Favorite: When to Give Up The Authentic Fight

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.4 • 574 Ratings

🗓️ 22 December 2020

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

This week I have another listener favorite episode for you on when to give up the authentic fight:

I asked a friend who is going through a divorce what I should talk about in this week's episode. He said I should talk about cravings.

And he offered what he meant by saying this, "Given the shit happening in the world, we turn to safety, fantasy, and imagination to numb our true selves and we give up the authentic fight." How beautiful is that?

There is so much happening in the world right now.

And my friend is right, we numb out as a way to escape. We numb with food, drinking, or shopping. When it comes to relationships, we numb out by fantasizing about other people; hoping they are the cure for a troubled marriage. Turning to other people, places, or things will not lead you to true fulfillment. Doing so simply covers up the pain, momentarily.

Succumbing to cravings is giving up the authentic fight.

What happens if you just sit still with all of the shit that is happening in your life; what if you gazed into all of your own holes and examined them for what they are? What if?

What might be possible for your relationship, for your marriage, or most importantly, for you? That's what I am talking about this week on the podcast. I hope you tune in.

Here are just a few of the topics I touch on in this episode:

Why marriage is not responsible for fulfilling you 100%
Discernment work is so complex, but necessary
The importance of recognizing your own 'made-up' stories and changing the narrative

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.7	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate
0:22.8	some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions.
0:28.5	I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side
0:34.2	of this process with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:48.6	Hey everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. I am your host, the
0:57.4	divorce survival guide, Kate Anthony. And I'm so glad you're here. Last week, I forgot to mention
1:05.1	that on Wednesday, last Wednesday, our podcast turned two. She's such a little baby. She's only two
1:15.4	years old. And I call her our podcast, not because there's more than just me here. I mean,
1:23.4	there is. There is my amazing podcast producer, Darlene.
1:29.0	But I say we because I include all of us, all of you in this.
1:35.5	All however many thousands of you are listening to this right now, which just blows my mind,
1:41.5	that our podcast is two years old and that I've been doing this for two years and that
1:47.5	you have been here with me some of you for that entire time I'm just so grateful I'm so so
1:53.3	grateful so happy birthday to all of us and happy birthday to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast
2:00.4	a little baby toot horn for a little two-year-old podcast.
2:05.0	Anyway, you know, when I do these solo episodes, sometimes I really script them out and I think long and hard and I bullet point and all of those things.
2:15.9	And today I've just kind of been sitting here
2:17.9	slightly stuck about what it is I want to share with you guys today. And I think that, you know,
2:25.5	one of the things, I feel like there's a lot of things that I talk about that are recurring themes
2:30.0	that I talk about all the time. And sometimes I get sick of myself talking about them.
2:35.7	Like truth, truth, you guys. Sometimes I get really sick of myself.
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