Episode 96: Co-parenting Neurodiverse Children Post-Divorce with Elaine Taylor-Klaus
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 18 November 2020
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Maneuvering through a divorce is tough. Co-parenting can be even tougher. Parenting a diagnosed or newly diagnosed child with ADHD or neurodiversity post-divorce, well, things can feel downright suffocating at times. This week on the podcast we're talking about parenting a perfectly imperfect complex child in the midst of a divorce.
My guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. She's the co-founder of ImpactADHD.com and co-creator of Sanity School®. When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, Elaine's work truly impacted the way that I moved through my son's diagnosis, parenting, co-parenting with my ex, and everything that came after that.
Seriously. Elaine's work was a lifesaver for me.
Show Highlights
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Getting an ADHD diagnosis for your child. (4:20)
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Now that you know what you are dealing with, what happens next? (5:00)
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Moving from 'fix-it' mode to 'understanding'. (8:29)
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How to deal when one partner in the co-parent has ADHD and you have a child diagnosed with ADHD too. (16:31)
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What to do when one parent is in denial about a diagnosis. (19:05)
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Steps to help empower your child to find control where they can and help them feel good. (20:26)
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Choose one thing to be important at a time and not try to do everything at once. (38:26)
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What to do when your co-parent partner is criticizing your way of parenting. (42:05)
Learn More About Elaine Taylor-Klaus:
Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. The co-founder of ImpactADHD.com, co-creator of Sanity School® (an online behavior therapy program), and co-author of Parenting ADHD Now! Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD, she provides coaching, training, and support for parents of complex kids – and parents raising kids in complex times. Her newest book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More was released in September. Elaine has served as a parent advisor for the American Academy of Pediatrics and on the national Board of Directors of CHADD. She is the mother in an ADHD++ family of six.
Resources & Links:
Elaine's website
Elaine on Twitter
Bless Her Heart – She Just Doesn't Understand ADHD (article)
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 1:16.1 | Hey, everyone. Welcome back to another episode. I am so happy. I'm happy that you're here and joining me for another episode. I'm happy to be moving on and away from politics for a bit. How about that? Fucking miracles do happen. Today's episode, I'm super |
| 1:25.4 | excited to bring you a bringing you a conversation with a |
| 1:30.1 | colleague of mine, my friend Elaine Taylor Klaus, and I met Elaine because we actually went through |
| 1:36.0 | the same coaching training and certification program many, many, many, many moons ago. |
| 1:51.1 | But I met Elaine when my son was first diagnosed with ADHD, when he was about six. |
| 1:55.3 | And my son's diagnosis was pretty severe. |
| 2:06.2 | And it was a living hell, to be perfectly honest, from about, from the time he was about six through maybe like fifth grade, it was super, super, super hard in our world. |
| 2:14.7 | I would have so much, that's I think when my anxiety really kicked in and I would have, I, so much, that's, I think, when my anxiety really kicked in, |
| 2:19.6 | and I would have anxiety attacks every day when I, just before, pick up, and sort of every, |
| 2:24.4 | every afternoon after school with him felt like, felt like battle, felt like I was going into war, |
| 2:29.3 | and I was sort of arming myself for time with my child, and then you get the guilt and the, I mean, it was so awful. |
| 2:37.4 | And at that time, my coach recommended that I get in touch with Elaine and I start sort of looking |
| 2:45.0 | at her work. And I got to tell you, it was a game changer for me. And good news for everybody, Elaine just wrote a book about this, |
| 2:55.5 | about, you know, parenting a child with differences, neurological differences, all sorts of |
| 3:03.0 | stuff. But ADHD is really her specialty. And I got to say, I'm just excited that more people get to have |
| 3:11.5 | access to the help that she provided for me and, you know, certainly hundreds of other people |
| 3:17.7 | over the years. Now she's written this book. So it's great. So we're having a conversation today. |
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