Episode 95: Birthday Reflections: How I'm Planning to Show Up Bolder Than Ever + Let Go of the Fear of JUDGMENT!
Cara Says It All
Cara Alwill
4.8 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 23 April 2018
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
It's my birthday! As I enter my 38th year of life and my 10th year as a blogger-turned-coach-turned-author-turned self-empowered woman, I have a LOT on my mind. I've been thinking about how I want to continue showing up in the world. As a woman. As a business woman. As someone who has a lot of eyes on her, and a massive platform to express herself through and help women.
I'm going to admit something: I sometimes edit myself. I sometimes hold back on saying things I really want to say because I don't want to offend people. Or ruffle feathers. Know what's interesting? I NEVER did this in the beginning of my career. Because nobody was really paying attention. And if they weren't paying attention, they weren't judging. And if I wasn't being judged I felt safe.
But as I've grown and become more of a public figure, I fell into the habit of biting my tongue. This isn't to say I haven't been real, but I've held back on expressing my thoughts at times because frankly, I just don't want to deal with people's reactions. I don't like negativity.
But I just can't go on muting myself because someone may have a problem with something I do or say. I can't risk MY truth because of someone else's response to it. In this episode, I'm digging into why we should all be unapologetically ourselves, why that doesn't mean we're being "bitches", and why we need to take some of the pressure off others who we admire.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi ladies and welcome back to the show. Happy Monday. I am so excited to be catching up with you again. |
| 0:08.9 | Monday morning, the start of your brand new week. Today is my birthday. So I'm especially excited |
| 0:15.0 | and really in a state of gratitude first and foremost and reflection. For me, birthdays are a blessing. They are an |
| 0:23.7 | opportunity to have another year here on earth, God willing. They just bring up so much stuff |
| 0:30.1 | for me. And I don't, I'm not one of those women that focus on getting older. I never lie about |
| 0:34.8 | my age. I don't hide my age. I'm 38 years old today. So proud to be |
| 0:39.6 | 38 years old. So glad that I'm not 18 or 20 back in my past when I was like so confused and had so |
| 0:47.4 | much to learn. I'm like really grateful to be where I am. I think with age comes wisdom and comes |
| 0:53.1 | perspective and I feel really, |
| 0:55.0 | really fortunate and really blessed that I have become more and more self-aware every single year, |
| 1:01.2 | and I feel like I'm really at my best right now. That's not to say that I don't think I have a ton |
| 1:05.7 | of room to grow because I know that I do, and I'm human like we all are, but I just feel like |
| 1:10.5 | I'm in a really good |
| 1:11.2 | place. So I just wanted to share that with you guys. If you are stressing out over your age or |
| 1:16.7 | feeling like you're getting older, are you starting to dread birthdays or thinking about, |
| 1:22.5 | like, you know, I didn't do X, Y, Z yet, or I don't have enough time or I'm too old to change. |
| 1:28.0 | Like, fuck that shit. |
| 1:30.1 | Honestly, you have every opportunity in every moment of every single day to change, to change |
| 1:36.4 | directions, to change your mind about something, to utilize the opportunities around |
| 1:42.0 | you and in front of you and to leverage every single opportunity |
| 1:45.0 | to be a better woman. And that actually ties in with what I want to discuss in today's episode. |
| 1:51.8 | So if you are a subscriber of my newsletter or you're a member of Slay Baby, which is my private |
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