Welcome to the Broad Experience, the show about women, the workplace and success.

I'm Ashley Milthight.

This is a second of two shows on work and intimacy, and the effect one has on the other.

Culturally, what we see is really important is productivity, status, position, achievement. Women are so achievement-focused.

And my feeling is you have to decide, how do you want to live your life?

Coming up, the rest of my conversation with sexuality counselor and nurse midwife, Evelyn Rash.

Thank you. a nurse midwife, Evelyn Rash. Since I released the first of these two shows, I've heard from a few listeners,

especially on that point where Evelyn said she'd get pushback,

where she advised women to start having children

in their 20s. One 25-year-old listener said, look, I'm in law school. I'm so busy. I don't even

have time to have a boyfriend. She said also, I really believe your 20s are about you and finding

out who you are and what you want. Then another woman wrote to me, she's 31,

and she said, I'm single and I basically don't have an intimate life at the moment. And now,

thanks to what your guest said, I'm worried about having a high risk pregnancy. Now, when I was 31,

I didn't have an intimate life either. And I often felt actually in these

periods of my life where I was single, living in New York, that I lived in a culture that

glorified sex, and I wasn't part of that. And it didn't always feel very good. I definitely felt

I was swimming against the tide.

So these two shows with Evelyn aren't meant to be shaming single people. They are aimed

at people in longer term relationships, but I figured they were worth putting out for everyone,

because even if you're not in a relationship now, you probably will be at some point in the future.

And here's something else I heard from a different listener.

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