Episode 703: David, Gay Latter-day Saint, Solving Porn, Sexual Assault Survivor, Once Suicidal

Listen, Learn & Love Hosted by Richard Ostler

Richard Ostler

Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 839 Ratings

🗓️ 2 October 2023

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

My friend David (not his real name) joins us to share his story. David starts with section 1 of his story (age 7-17) realizing he was gay at age 7 and (after hearing inappropriate conversations) turned to porn to learn more—which led to constant porn use. David talks the shame of porn, how it was a coping mechanism, and then opening up to his bishop and parents. David continues with section 2 of his story (age 18-22) which includes going away to college and some dating of men—one of which turned into a sexual assault situation that lasted many months and led David to falsely conclude “life is not worth living” leading to plans for his suicide. David talks about, at the last moment, reaching out to a friend who saved him. David also talks about a reaching out to the Title 9 Office that believed him and got him out of the situation. David also shares how his Bishop didn’t believe him and how we can do better. David talks about his mission (good experience, ended with Covid) and then going back to school. David finishes with section 3 of this story (age 23-26) which includes getting married to a man—a marriage which neither were really ready for and how/why it ended in divorce. David talks about what he has learned and how that marriage has made him a better man. We conclude the podcast with questions and David’s thoughtful answers. If you are in a dark place because of porn use, being a sexual assault victim, not being straight or in a bad relationship—thinking all is lost—David’s story will help you. It is a story of faith, courage, honestly, feeling God’s love, and looking forward. You are a good man, David. Thanks for being brave and sharing your story which helps others. Thank you for being on the podcast! Links: Richard Ostler books/bio/etc: www.papaostler.com Index of Podcasts: https://listenlearnandlove.org/podcasts Facebook Group to Support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1433556613672143

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0:00.0	Welcome listeners to another episode of Listen, Learn, and Love, hosted by Richard Osler.
0:10.0	My guest on today's podcast is really brave.
0:12.9	He's 26 and he's to share his story as a sexual assault survivor, going through a Title IX experience, working through pornography, having difficult relationship
0:23.7	with family members at times, becoming very suicidal, serving a mission in the middle of all
0:30.5	that, successful mission. He's gay. He's going to share his story about marrying a man and
0:37.2	why that didn't work. He's,. He's going to share his story about marrying a man and why that didn't work.
0:39.8	He's, I've, in sharing this experience, we both felt it be fine for him to use an anonymous name.
0:46.9	The name we're going to use is David.
0:48.9	And I will call him David throughout the podcast.
0:51.3	And that's just because the sensitive nature of a story and his
0:54.6	desire to share the story, his story to be able to help others that are walking through
0:59.2	complicated roads. It may need to hear the things that David's learned on his journey to be
1:06.1	able to help others. So this is a story I've borne out of love, not vindictiveness for the people that have created
1:13.7	harm in his life. It's more of a desire to help other people walking hard roads. Is that okay for
1:19.7	an introduction, David? It is. Thank you so much for having me. We said a prayer and that's our prayers.
1:26.2	This will just be helpful for you.
1:27.9	So I'll turn it over to you, David.
1:30.1	I didn't get very detailed listeners on where he served his mission or he's gone to college.
1:34.7	He's got a couple degrees.
1:36.9	His age, I may have mentioned that.
1:38.7	I can't remember if I did, but I'll just let David share his story.
1:44.8	All right.
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