Welcome to the Love Honor honor and vacuum podcast with me Sheila Ray Greg from the to love honor and vacuum blog where we like to talk about how to

make marriage a passionate adventure and not just a giant to-do list.

Speaking of giant to-do list this month on the blog,

we are talking about emotional labor and mental load.

Or, in other words, what it feels like for so many women when all of the

details of the family's life are bouncing around in your brain and you've got to

keep all these details straight or everything is going to fall apart.

And that's what so many of us feel is this constant load of all these little decisions we have to make,

all these details we have to remember as if everything rests on our shoulders and that doesn't

mean that our husbands aren't stressed and it doesn't mean that our husbands don't

work hard as well but often the problem is that women own so much of the household,

whether it's supervising homework or figuring out

what housework needs to be done,

or keeping track of parents' anniversaries

and birthday cards and birthday parties

that it just becomes overwhelming.

And so we're looking at how we can put words

to what we're feeling and how we can sort this out

in our marriage so that it becomes an issue that we can unite around and that we can feel like partners around instead of something where it's a constant source of tension.

So last week we started talking about this and we had a ton of

people email us and comment that finally they were able to put words to what

they've been feeling and that's been really freeing and we did our podcast last week

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