Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 July 2021

⏱️ 53 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Do you think that relationships should be effortless? Or that having to work on your relationship means there's something wrong?

Or does your partner think these things?

A lot of people think that they should only need to put effort into their relationship to solve serious problems. Or they wait until things are bad to start putting in effort.

But your relationship CAN NOT survive without effort.

In this episode, we reframe work in a completely different - and much more helpful, effective, and fun! - way.

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode6

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	You and I are a team. If something bothers one of us, it should matter to both of us.
0:10.5	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your host, Vanessa.
0:16.1	And Sandra Marin.
0:17.6	I'm a sex therapist with 20 years of experience.
0:20.3	And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you
0:25.8	step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
0:28.4	So make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical
0:33.7	relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom
0:39.3	doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd have.
0:46.4	I want us to go to therapy. Do you remember when I said that to you many, many years ago?
0:51.9	I thought you were about to say many, many times.
0:54.3	I probably did ask you to go to therapy with me many, many times.
0:59.3	True. I do remember.
1:01.5	This was really early on in our relationship. We were going through some pretty big struggles
1:07.1	with Sandra overworking us, really not spending very much time together.
1:12.4	Just starting to drift apart, starting to feel more like roommates than partners.
1:17.5	And I think, you know, at that time, I was the one who was more conscious of the changes
1:22.4	that were happening in our relationship. I was the one who was more conscious of like feeling
1:26.4	scared about where's our relationship going, what's happening, why does it feel so different
1:31.4	from what it used to feel like. And it was a really scary thing for me to ask you to go to therapy.
1:37.9	And it was even scarier that for a while you were not interested in doing that.
1:44.1	And fortunately, you came around and we did go to therapy.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Vanessa & Xander Marin, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Vanessa & Xander Marin and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.