Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.

You guys, we have a very special guest. I know I say this a lot, but I'm a big fan of hers. Her name is Sadia Khan.

You probably have seen her all over social media because she is a viral psychotherapist who gives really, I think, great advice on relationships, men, women,

and it's kind of sometimes somewhat polarizing, which is why so much of it goes viral.

But almost always so spot on and accurate, which is why I think also people have taken to you the way they have. And she has a new book called Red Flags. And we're going to talk all about Red Flags. And we're going to talk about so many other things. So, Sadia, all the way in from Dubai, thank you so much for being here. No, thank you so much for having me. It's such a pleasure. Oh, such a pleasure. I've been watching your stuff for years. Like, I mean, probably what, three, four, how long have you been doing this stuff? Since 2023. So about three years now. Yeah, three years. Wow. It feels like it's been longer. It does feel like that, but I actually, the moment I came on social media, it kind of went viral that day. So there was no build-up, so on foot. So it feels like people have known me forever,

but they literally knew me from the day I started. media, it kind of went viral that day. So it was no buildup. So it feels like people have known me

forever, but they literally knew me from the day I started. And it just kind of went from there.

It's so true. It really weird. There was no buildup. There was no slow trajectory. It was just kind of

on and off. You know it's funny because you did explode right off the bat. Yeah. I remember seeing a

couple of your videos and they were so,

they, they were so good in terms of the content and you don't hear a lot of people talking about

what you talk about because you're not trying to be counterintuitive, but you are counterintuitive.

And it's, and it's, and it's, but it's actually so accurate, I think. Thank you. And I think people were sharing it so, like, so, like, so, like, so, like, so, like, so, like, right away. People were sharing it. So you went viral so quickly. Yeah. And it was, I was also lucky with the timing. Um, as much as I would love to say, I just went viral. It was very good timing because it was a time where Andrew Tate was, you know, the red pill stuff was really heavy. And then there was the feminism that was really heavy. And there was a whole cohort of women like me who were like, I don't like the red pill stuff, but I'm also not this staunch feminist. And they just didn't have a voice. And I came in as kind of like the middle ground. every bit so many people will say, you just worship men and you're on men's side. But then there's men that say, you're always on the women's side. And I think when there's an equal backlash, then you're probably neutral. And I like to say that I'm always on children's side. I'm on the side of what will make a happy home and a good, like, set of parents and co-parents.

I'm always kind of, the Northern Star has always been like, what's best for children? If I teach men to hate women, it's going to be terrible for parenting. And if I teach women to hate men, that's going to be terrible for parenting. So it's always kind of finding the balance between the two to get to a healthier home. I mean, that's really well said. I find that so much of your content, well, you can talk about it now, is about number one,

masculinity, which I found to be really, like, on point.

There's so many trends that you kind of were speaking on.

Like the first trend I was on this masculinity, how men, for example, we're losing, like, men are not as

alpha or masculine as they used to be, and how women need an alpha or masculine man. Yes. And so I saw

that clip and I was like, share, share, share everybody. Can we talk about that? Like,

how did you kind of come to this? Tell me about a little bit about that? Like, how did you kind of come to this?

Tell me about a little bit about that and the evolution of how you kind of got your research and data and where you speak from.

Thank you for that question. Great question. What happened is, and this is probably why it was so different, is, and I talk about this in my book, I was following, when I first became a therapist, there's amazing resources. So they'll teach you about attachment styles. They'll teach you about Gottman theory. They'll teach you about love languages. And you feel so intelligent when you learn all of this. So when I first started having clients, I was like, okay, as a man, you just need to show her her love language. If she likes gifts, give her a bunch of gifts. If she wants quality time, just do that.

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