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Habits and Hustle

Episode 548: The Trick To Doing Things You Don't Feel Like Doing

Habits and Hustle

Jen Cohen

Entrepreneurship, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Business

4.5818 Ratings

🗓️ 24 April 2026

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

The problem was never that you didn't know what to do. It's that you keep letting the version of you who doesn't feel like doing it cast the deciding vote. That's the trap. We make decisions based on how we feel before the thing, instead of how we'll feel after it.  And before anything hard, the feeling is always the same: tired, unmotivated, full of reasons to wait. If that's the voice you're listening to, of course you're stuck restarting. You've handed the mic to the wrong version of yourself. We try to fix this with more discipline, more motivation, or another reset on Monday. None of it works for long, because none of it changes the question you're asking yourself in the moment that actually matters. In this episode of Habits & Hustle, I break down the one question that changed how I show up for the gym, the hard conversations, and everything I'd rather put off. No system. No reset. Just a different way to decide. You don't need more motivation. You need to stop letting the wrong version of you decide.  Let's dive in! What's Discussed: (01:16) The one shift in focus that changes how you make every hard decision. (02:06) Why chasing happiness directly is the reason you never feel it. (03:08) The backwards way we wait for motivation to show up. (04:08) What the gym actually proves about every other thing you avoid. (04:52) The pattern hiding inside one-night stands, tequila, and skipped workouts. (07:41) Why the conversations you're putting off are costing you more than having them. (08:55) The reason rumination makes you suffer twice and how to stop the loop. (09:56) The feeling that should actually drive your decisions (and the one that shouldn't). Thank you to my sponsors!Kion: Visit getkion.com/habits for 20% off. AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE! AX3®: Visit www.AX3.life to get a 20% discount on your first order with promo code HUSTLE at checkout. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code JEN at checkout. Find more from Jen:  Website: https://jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements

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0:00.0

Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.

0:06.7

And here we are. Solo episode. We're just, I don't know, just shooting the shit over here with Shani. And on like literally the most mundane, like unimportant shit, my hair. And if it's darker or lighter than it used to be.

0:23.1

So what do you guys think? Yeah. So what do you think? And I got a little bit of a trim. That's

0:27.4

basically the big conversation topic. I'm going to tune out and just move on to the next thing.

0:32.9

No, I'm joking. Okay. Let's move on. Let's talk about something that I was thinking about last night,

0:37.2

which is this idea of what you focus on.

0:41.1

I think this is actually really interesting because I like to focus on things that I think about not how I feel before I do something, but how I will feel after I do something.

0:52.6

Right. So I don't allow how I feel before to shape and decide what I'm

0:59.6

going to do because a lot of times the things that you are like that you feel bad about later

1:06.1

are the things that you were going to feel good about before. And the things that you kind of like

1:11.6

feel like you don't want to do actually make you feel better after. So focus on how you feel

1:17.4

after something, not how you feel before something, like exercise, right? No one would ever say

1:23.1

they felt worse after working out. But they would say they felt worse after drinking, you know,

1:31.6

a leader of tequila. But at the time they decided to do it, they were super psyched and excited

1:36.8

and happy and they felt really good about it and it was going to be a good time. And then they do it.

1:42.9

And they felt like like shit after. So think about those things because if you focus on health versus happiness, you know, health leads you to happiness as opposed to like focusing on being happy, being happy, but not doing any of the right steps and making the right choices and doing the right decisions to get you to that place. I love that. Wait, that's so great. This idea of, I think

2:07.5

so many people are waiting to feel good before they pursue a lot of these things. Yeah, they're waiting

2:11.7

to, not thinking that pursuing these things will lead you to feeling good. Right. That's the whole thing.

2:15.5

Like you switch it on its head, right?

2:18.1

We're all waiting for this moment when we feel happy and feel a certain way to then go after

2:25.0

something or do something versus what I just said, which is this idea that you focus on being

2:33.5

mentally healthy, physically healthy, in relationships that are healthy,

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