Episode 505: Jefferson Fisher: How to Argue Less and Communicate Better

Habits and Hustle

Jen Cohen

Education, Health & Fitness, Business, Self-improvement, Entrepreneurship

4.4 • 800 Ratings

🗓️ 25 November 2025

⏱️ 74 minutes

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How is it possible to be confident in every other area of your life, but lose your footing the second a conversation gets difficult? In this episode of Habits & Hustle, I sit down with Jefferson Fisher, a former trial lawyer, bestselling author, and one of the most respected communication voices online, to talk about how to argue less and actually connect more. We talk about what intentional communication actually looks like in real life and why so many people slip into defensiveness instead of clarity. Jefferson breaks down the small but powerful adjustments that change everything in a hard conversation, from slowing your tone to asking questions that defuse tension instead of escalating it. He also explains why trying to “win” is the quickest way to damage trust, and how a calm, grounded “no” can communicate confidence without conflict. If you often leave conversations feeling misunderstood or emotionally drained, this episode will feel like a reset. We go deeper into how to structure a discussion so no one spirals, how to navigate people with low emotional awareness, and how to keep your composure even when your instinct is to react fast. Jefferson Fisher has helped millions of people communicate with more clarity and less conflict through his signature approach to calm, intentional dialogue. His first book, The Next Conversation, became a New York Times bestseller, and his content has reshaped how people navigate arguments, boundaries, and connection in everyday life. What We Discuss: (06:09) When what you said does not match what they heard (09:17) Slowing your tone to calm the conversation (13:58) “Nice” vs. “Kind” and why the difference matters (21:14) How to say “no” without guilt or excuses (27:26) Using frames to start hard conversations (36:41) Handling people with low emotional intelligence (51:57) Cutting weak language to sound more confident Thank you to our sponsors: Therasage: Head over to therasage.com and use code Be Bold for 15% off Air Doctor: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code HUSTLE40 for up to $300 off and a 3-year warranty on air purifiers. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. Momentous: Shop this link and use code Jen for 20% off Manna Vitality: Visit mannavitality.com and use code JENNIFER20 for 20% off your order Prolon: Get 30% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit https://prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Amp fit is the perfect balance of tech and training, designed for people who do it all and still want to feel strong doing it. Check it out at joinamp.com/jen Find more from Jen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement Find more from Jefferson Fisher: Instagram: @jefferson_fisher TikTok: @justaskjefferson Youtube: @jeffersonfisher Facebook: @justaskjefferson X: @jefferson_fishr

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0:00.0	Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it. Before we dive into
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1:35.6	All right, so I just kind of was gushing over you before we started because I was saying how much I love your content.
1:37.8	And your story is so amazing.
1:45.0	You were a trial lawyer and now you've become like the most renowned, like the world's leading communication coach? Like, would you even call yourself?
1:47.0	You tell me.
1:49.0	I don't really know at this point.
1:51.0	Yeah, most of the time during the day, I'm just called Dad.
1:56.0	And now with the law firm and this whole social media stuff, I don't like influencer, you know, the content
2:04.7	creator. That doesn't really fit kind of what I do. But yeah, just communication guy. That works.
2:11.3	You know what's funny. Did you ever think, for those people who are living under a rock,
2:15.6	I mean, Jefferson, you have like, what, like 10 million followers now?
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