Episode 501: Alejandra Maria Gallo: Dating Strategy, Emotional Regulation, and Taking Your Power Back

Habits and Hustle

Jen Cohen

Education, Health & Fitness, Business, Self-improvement, Entrepreneurship

4.4 • 800 Ratings

🗓️ 11 November 2025

⏱️ 76 minutes

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Summary

You can be successful, confident, and unstoppable in business: and still lose your edge when it comes to love. In this episode of Habits & Hustle, I sit down with Alejandra Maria, a dating strategist and viral creator who helps ambitious women stop chasing and start leading with self-respect. We talk about what it really means to have emotional discipline, the ability to pause before reacting, to stay calm instead of proving your worth, and to walk away instead of negotiating for respect. Alejandra breaks down how “no contact” can be a power move, not a game, and why emotional diversification is the secret to staying grounded when everything feels personal. If you’re the kind of woman who thrives under pressure but keeps losing your balance in relationships, this one’s for you. We unpack how to bring the same clarity and control you have in business into your emotional life, without losing your softness or your power. Alejandra Maria has built a global audience of nearly a million women with her unapologetic, emotionally intelligent take on modern dating. Her insights have been featured in Newsweek, Girlboss, and more. And she’s redefining what it means to be “high value” in love and life. What We Discuss: (04:10) Why high-achieving women often lose power in love (06:05) The difference between emotional discipline and emotional suppression (08:42) “You can’t outwork emotional chaos”: bringing business mindset into dating (12:30) How “no contact” became the most powerful boundary you can set (18:20) Emotional diversification: spreading your energy beyond one relationship (25:14) Why confidence isn’t control, it’s composure (33:47) The signs you’re over-functioning in relationships (42:30) How to stop chasing and start being chosen (51:12) The mindset shift from proving your worth to holding your power (58:40) How to regulate emotions like you train your body: consistency over chaos …and more! Thank you to our sponsors: Therasage: Head over to therasage.com and use code Be Bold for 15% off Air Doctor: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code HUSTLE for up to $300 off and a 3-year warranty on air purifiers. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. Momentous: Shop this link and use code Jen for 20% off Manna Vitality: Visit mannavitality.com and use code JENNIFER20 for 20% off your order Prolon: Get 30% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit https://prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Amp fits is the perfect balance of tech and training, designed for people who do it all and still want to feel strong doing it. Check it out at joinamp.com/jen Find more from Jen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement Find more from Alejandra Maria: Instagram: @anxiouslyalej TikTok: @anxiouslyalej Youtube: @anxiouslyalej

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0:00.0	Hi, guys. It's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.
0:06.7	Guys, women, this is for, I think it's for everybody, but women, you're going to thank me for this
0:12.9	podcast. I really think so. We have a young woman. Her name is Alejandra Maria. She is a dating
0:19.4	strategist. How would you describe yourself? It's more than just a
0:22.4	dating strategist. Yeah, I would say a strategist is the perfect word. Yeah, I think so. Because what you're
0:28.4	really, what, like, so this is how it happened. Here I am doom scrolling on TikTok, and one of
0:35.0	Alejandra's videos came up. And was I just thought that you I just thought
0:39.1	you were so good in terms of like cutting through the crap and like getting to like the meat
0:45.5	of the matter and really breaking down relationships date modern dating psychology,
0:53.8	emotional dysfunction, regularity so well that I had to reach out
0:59.1	to you and coincidentally, you were coming to L.A. Yeah. So this was like meant to be. Yeah,
1:04.3	it was meant to be. I'm so glad. Also, she's Canadian. So this is even more of a thing. Even better.
1:09.5	Even better, right? Because I love, of course, how do you not love a Canadian? Like, right? We're Canadian. So this is even more of a thing. Even better. Even better, right? Because I love, of course,
1:11.5	how do you not love a Canadian? Like, right? We're Canadian. So thank you again for coming on the
1:16.9	show. I love that you're here. What we do first before we do anything is we take a healthy
1:22.6	performance shot. These are magic mind. They're delicious. And it keeps my guest on point and very, very
1:28.8	focused. And they taste, like I said, very good. And they have all sorts of yummy ingredients.
1:33.3	And I know that you're an ultramarathoner. So I thought of all the people.
1:37.8	Going to be perfect. Yeah. I already had three today. I don't know if I should have any more.
1:43.2	It's good, right? This is really good. I know. I was expecting it to have like a sharp taste, but it's like very, wow. I know because most, most of these shots are like terrible, but this one's actually very good. I'm not going to do mine because I do like fly off the walls if I have more than four a day. Where do you get these? You can buy them
2:02.6	actually at, I see them everywhere now. You can buy them online, but you can also buy them at Arrow One in L.A. I don't know if they come. Yeah, they're, I've heard of that place. Yeah, exactly. Airwans a whole thing. Okay, right, because you're Canadian. You can get them at Air One. I don't know if they have them at Whole Foods.
2:18.0	You could buy them online.
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