Episode #5: Fear vs Bravery: Throwing the script away
Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT | Anxiety & OCD Specialist
4.9 • 882 Ratings
🗓️ 26 July 2016
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
Key Points from todays podcast!
What IS the difference between Fear and Bravery?
- Is someone who has social anxiety, who goes to the party, but is visibly anxious, fearful or brave?
- Is someone who has perfectionism, who finishes a text without going over and over the answers before turning it in?
- Is someone who is ashamed of his or her body and afraid of peoples rude comments, but goes to the party anyway in the dress or outfit they love fearful or brave?
My thoughts are….they are both.
Begin fearful is not a weakness.
Allowing there to be both allows for compassion and strength
Brene Brown "Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen"
My definition of Bravery is the examples above. Having fear AND showing up.
Vulnerability is not a weakness. It is a measure of courage
Perfectionism is an attempt to avoid vulnerability with ourselves and others.
Go and be brave, while being afraid. Go and make friends with vulnerability
"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the BRAVEST thing that we will do" Brene Brown The gifts of Imperfection
"Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky, but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy-the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." Brene Brown
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| 0:00.0 | Hello there, friends. My name is Kimberly Quinlan and this is your anxiety toolkit podcast. Today we're |
| 0:09.5 | speaking on fearfulness and bravery and the name of today's podcast is throwing the script away. |
| 0:17.5 | I'm very excited to be with you all again this month. So the inspiration for this podcast |
| 0:24.2 | was a little different. I have a little story for you. Yesterday I was walking with my daughter. |
| 0:30.2 | We were on our way to daycare and we were walking past something that causes her a lot of anxiety |
| 0:35.6 | and has for some time. And yesterday and for the last |
| 0:39.9 | few months she's been improving in her ability to walk past and be brave and walk through it. |
| 0:47.9 | And yesterday, as she was successful, I looked down at her and I said, wow, you are so brave. |
| 0:55.2 | And she looked back up at me and said, no, I am not. |
| 1:00.1 | I am afraid. |
| 1:01.8 | And I stopped in my tracks. |
| 1:04.6 | I was so shocked at how, how did someone of such a young age already interpret that the presence of fear means the absence of |
| 1:16.1 | bravery? It really broke my heart and it made me realize that that is a misconception that many |
| 1:22.5 | of us experience that just because we are afraid makes us not brave. So today I wanted to discuss |
| 1:31.6 | this idea of fearfulness versus bravery. The second story I want to discuss before we really get |
| 1:37.7 | into the meat of it is just to explain to you guys why I started this podcast. Originally, I had at the beginning of the |
| 1:46.9 | year this idea that I wanted to be more creative. I really wanted to help more people and I've |
| 1:52.9 | always wanted to do a podcast. So this was a great opportunity. Well, that sounds very fun. It also made me face a lot of my fears and made me, you know, |
| 2:06.0 | I had to experience a lot of vulnerability. And it also meant that I was opening myself up to |
| 2:11.5 | criticism. I am usually the kind of person who doesn't love, as we all are, being open to criticism. And invulnerability |
| 2:20.7 | is not my strong suit. So, you know, it sort of made me really think about, you know, am I brave, |
| 2:27.2 | am I fearful, and how does that relate to this podcast? Now, I was thinking about basically basically the last few podcasts that I have uploaded |
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