Episode 46: Should You Stay In Your Marriage For Your Kids: Three Truths Revealed

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Self-improvement, Education, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.4 • 574 Ratings

🗓️ 12 November 2019

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

This week I am bringing you a solo episode! As I continue to roll out weekly episodes, you'll hear more solo episodes, like this one, from me. And of course, I'll continue to produce interview episodes as well. Weekly episodes means more support and resources for you; and more fun for me. Win-win!

This week I'm bringing you a training I did as a webinar last year about whether or not you should stay in your marriage for your kids. This is one of the BIG topics I get asked about all the time. Of course it is. It's the biggest conundrum we all face

If you've been mulling over this particular question, I know you're feeling a lot of uncertainty — about your future, about your present.

You've heard horror stories and maybe people in your family and community are telling you you're selfish for even thinking of leaving, and you think surely you should just suck it up and stay for your kids.

And despite everything everyone's saying, more than anything you just want to know that whatever you choose, your kids will be ok.

As a mom, you put them first in everything. Every move you make for yourself and your life you put through the filter of "what's best for my kids?"

So how can you possibly make a decision about your marriage without putting them first? Without considering how this will affect them? Without the deepest fear that if you decide to leave your marriage, you're going to break them?

If the idea of leaving is just as terrifying as the idea of staying, what should you do? In today's episode I'm going to reveal 3 vital truths about whether or not leaving your marriage will screw up your kids, and then I'm going to dig deeply into each one.

Here are just a few of the topics I touch on in this episode:

You deserve to be happy, and why your happiness is actually vital for your kids' mental health
Divorce doesn't screw up kids. How we do divorce screws up kids.
Why I had to leave my marriage, for my son
Keeping your own side of the street squeaky clean (aka co-parenting with integrity)

Resources:
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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.6	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of the
0:23.5	roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to
0:29.1	hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process
0:35.0	with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:44.1	Hi there. Welcome back. So this is my first solo episode in a while and I wanted to let you know
0:53.0	that while I have been doing interviews twice a month
0:56.5	for a while now from now on you will be hearing from me every week and twice a month I will be
1:03.3	doing solo shows like this I'm going to try and rotate them alternate them um it guest episode interview
1:09.8	and then me but we'll see how that goes but seriously thank you for
1:15.8	tuning in and spending this time with me i so appreciate you being here as of this recording
1:21.2	over 15,000 of you tune into this podcast every month and that number number rises each month, which means you are not alone.
1:30.9	So if you're not already in my Facebook group, you need to hop on over to Facebook and join us
1:36.8	so that you can gather in community with all of these other women who are going through
1:41.5	exactly what you're going through. I promise, because I hear from them
1:46.4	every day. So the link to join the Facebook group is in the show notes. And just a quick sidebar,
1:51.8	this group is for women only. Sorry, guys. So this week, I am bringing you a training that I actually
1:56.9	did as a webinar last year. And it's about whether or not you should stay in your marriage
2:01.8	for your kids. Now, this is a biggie, and it's something that we struggle with. It's a huge one, right?
2:09.1	And I hear it all the time. Of course I do. It's literally the biggest conundrum that we all face.
2:14.4	So if you've been mulling this particular question, as much as I was 11, 12 years ago,
2:21.3	I know you're feeling a lot of uncertainty about your future, about your present. You've probably
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