Episode 455: Breaking Cycles with Your Child with Sabrina
Over It And On With It
Christine Hassler
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 12 June 2024
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Did you have a parent that was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you?
- Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space?
- Do you know that healing starts within, but you’re unsure how to begin?
Guest Insights:
- Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her.
- Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older.
- Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much is pushing her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son.
Aha Moments:
- Mirror Effect: Children reflect their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized.
- Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son.
- Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his own terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping.
How to Get Over It:
- Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions.
- Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences.
- Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one.
- Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing.
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| 0:00.0 | This is episode 455 breaking cycles with your child with Sabrina. |
| 0:07.0 | Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host Christine Hasler and for over a decade I've been a life coach, |
| 0:14.1 | speaker, and author. Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I |
| 0:18.2 | coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. |
| 0:21.6 | I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice |
| 0:24.5 | as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. |
| 0:27.5 | Now, let's get on with the episode. |
| 0:31.5 | Hey everybody. Welcome back to the show. I have a favorite to ask of you. So months ago I can't |
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| 0:50.4 | go to my show every week and download it or listen to it. It's not |
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| 1:20.0 | We've got a great show today. |
| 1:22.0 | We talk about so many things, whether you are a parent or not, |
| 1:25.6 | I encourage you to listen to this episode because even if you aren't a parent, never |
| 1:29.2 | planned to be a parent, listening to this may give you a lot of insight on your parents and why they |
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