Episode 412: The Difference Between Helping Vs. Enabling Toxic Behavior

The Dr. Leaf Show

Dr. Caroline Leaf

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 3.3K Ratings

🗓️ 29 August 2022

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Download my new and improved brain detox app here: https://neurocycle.app SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I discuss the difference between enabling and empowering someone. Simply put, enabling is doing something challenging for someone else, while empowering someone means helping and supporting them as they complete the challenging task. Think of those school projects you did as a child; enabling is your mom doing the whole project for you, while empowering is your mom helping you do your own school project. Sign up to Patreon to get access to the full video and audio recording add-free, exclusive downloads, live Q&As, and more: https://www.patreon.com/drcarolineleaf Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/the-difference-between-being-patient-vs-enabling-toxic-behavior-how-to-become-a-super-self-regulator OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS: -Apollo Neuroscience: Want to improve your sleep, relaxation, focus, recovery, and mindfulness habits? Try Apollo today! Get $40 off the Apollo wearable at apolloneuro.com/drleaf. -Gladskin: Right now, Gladskin is offering my listeners 15% off plus free shipping on your first order at gladskin.com/DRLEAF. -ZocDoc: Go to Zocdoc.com/LEAF and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours! EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 5:03 What is the difference between enabling and empowering? 9:40 What is empowerment, and how can you empower a loved one and help them on their healing journey? 10:00 Why compassion can lead to empowerment OR enablement, if we are not careful 10:53 Why emotions are complicated and can lead to “messy” relationships 11:33 How do you say “no”? 12:00 How to mind manage your relationships with the Neurocycle 13:30 How the Neurocycle can help you make wiser choices and recognize the difference between enabling and empowering 18:50 Why we need to listen to and learn from our emotions and feelings, even the uncomfortable ones! 33:39 Why you cannot fix other people’s problems for them 35:10 How to empower those you love ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: -Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com -Get a free Cleaning up Your Mental Mess workbook when you subscribe to my weekly email at drleaf.com! - Visit my website at https://drleaf.com for more free resources -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/drcarolineleaf *DISCLAIMER: This podcast and blog are for educational purposes only and are not intended as medical advice. We always encourage each person to make the decision that seems best for their situation with the guidance of a medical professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leif and you're listening to my podcast, Cleaning Up the Mental
0:10.1	Mace.
0:11.1	A podcast we actually simple and scientifically tested tips and strategies to help you clean
0:16.6	up your mind and your life.
0:18.3	I tell you I need this.
0:19.8	I'm sure you feel you need the same thing all the time.
0:22.6	There's constantly this mental mess that's going on in our minds and our lives and every
0:27.1	time during the day, this is an opportunity for us to clean up our mental mess.
0:31.1	But today's podcast, I'm going to talk about empowering versus enabling.
0:36.3	And the reason I'm doing this is because maybe like you, like me, you've been in situations
0:41.4	where you've had so much compassion for someone and someone is just so dear to you and they're
0:46.0	going through a really tough time and basically you help them a lot and then suddenly there's
0:51.4	the shift between are you enabling them or are you empowering them.
0:56.5	So as you help or you support, shift it from an empowerment where they are, you're helping
1:02.2	them to learn to sub-regulate and so on, has it then shifted over to the negative of enabling.
1:07.4	So I want to talk about that today and just give you some tips and a neuropsychal to help
1:11.6	you with that.
1:12.6	I've had a lot of questions from people asking me about this and to do a podcast on this
1:16.9	and I know for myself I've had to apply this a lot of times.
1:20.2	But before we begin, if you enjoy listening to my podcast and want to know how you can support
1:25.1	me, then please subscribe to this podcast where you listen to podcasts and keep hearing
1:29.8	episodes with friends and family and on social media.
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