Episode 403 - The Dr. Cloud Show - You Need to Change Your Definition of Responsibility

The Boundaries.me Podcast

Greg Bowler

Religion & Spirituality, Henrycloud, Gaslighting, Productivity, Mentalhealth, Boundaries, Faith, Leadership, Drhenrycloud, Christiancounseling, Psychology, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Counseling, Christianity, Narcissism, Relationships, Drcloud

4.7 • 815 Ratings

🗓️ 6 April 2024

⏱️ 83 minutes

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Summary

What thoughts come to mind when you think of responsibility? Is it burdensome, negative, or toxic? If you think that you’re not alone. The word often gets twisted during our upbringing because it’s brought down on you, it’s used in a repressive and toxic way. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to think differently about responsibility. Outside pressure and duty are often associated with responsibilities, and if those extrinsic factors went away you would not keep those responsibilities. Dr. Cloud elaborates on how to transform the external side of responsibility into internal choice. How you think about your responsibilities as a choice is critical for developing empowerment in your life. Reality will always hold you responsible, but whether you take responsibility for your role in what happens has to be your choice.

Write-in question of the day:

I haven't spoken to my son in several years and it's the most painful loss I've ever experienced. His father was very hard on him. Too hard, and I didn't step in when I should have. He was a very stern man. Never physically abusive, but highly judgmental and not an ounce of love to give. I'm now divorced and I want to reconnect with my son but he isn't returning my calls. What can I do?

Jill stores trauma from her past in her body. She gets tense pains in her neck, back, shoulders, and stomach when she needs to speak up for herself around the family that caused the trauma.

Jennifer and her husband are in disagreement about their church. Her husband is against the core principles of his church but she wants to stay.

Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?

Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.

If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.

https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud

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0:00.0	Hey guys, welcome back. It's another edition of the Dr. Cloud Show. And I'm happy to have you guys join me, whether you're watching on whatever platform you're watching on.
0:18.0	There's one guy, he puts aluminum foil on his head, stands in the
0:21.7	backyard, and come in loud and clear. I don't know if you've tried that. I would not recommend it
0:26.4	if you live in an area where there's lightning, but my point is I'm happy you're here. We are
0:32.7	going to be talking to live callers today, so I'll start out with a number. And I'll give it again as people
0:39.7	are logging on, but it is 844-940-2774. That's 844-940-2774. To call in, early callers,
0:53.3	get person in line, sort of like the old um early bird gets a worm
1:00.0	um i think it was michael junior i heard say one time that uh yeah but everybody forgets the worm
1:05.8	was there early too so early isn't the only thing it's important, but I want you to be early because here
1:13.2	that is important. 844-940-2774. If you never joined in, this is a show where we talk about
1:22.1	what I call the pie of life. I'm a clinical psychologist by training and practice, as well as I hang out in the
1:31.9	field of leadership and high performance. And I think of the pie of life as all those things for you
1:38.7	and me, that we have a clinical life. Now, if you're clinical life, which means how you feel and
1:47.0	do you like the thoughts you're having and are you able to control your behavior
1:51.0	and do you have addictions or your mood might be depressed or you have no energy
1:57.0	or all that stuff that we go see a shrink for, which is a good thing to do if you
2:02.4	got a good one. Like we use words like clinically depressed as opposed to bum down. So that's one
2:10.9	big slice of life, how we feel our throbbing, stress, energy, all that stuff. The second big
2:16.9	piece is the relational piece that you have relationships that also can
2:21.6	determine how you feel sometimes.
2:24.4	In all things relational, we talk on this program about, whether it's personal life or work
2:29.8	or in-laws or family or whatever, dating, all those things.
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