Episode 398 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Symptoms vs Root Causes
The Boundaries.me Podcast
Greg Bowler
4.7 • 815 Ratings
🗓️ 12 March 2024
⏱️ 70 minutes
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Summary
When you’re struggling, you’re usually going to have a symptom: you might be anxious, depressed, afraid, overreacting. You might be getting stuck accomplishing something. Whatever your symptoms might be, Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to see the key differences between symptoms and root causes. Learning more about your symptoms can help you see where your root causes are, but continuing to treat the symptoms without investigating the causes won’t lead to real change. Dr. Cloud wants you to stop and examine your symptoms so that you can get the help you need to address the real underlying causes behind them. It’s a great way to start feeling better.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey guys, welcome back. |
| 0:09.0 | It's the Dr. Cloud Show. |
| 0:11.0 | And so let's hop in to something that I wanted to talk about today. |
| 0:16.0 | It's a big, important topic for the place in which we find ourselves places in which we find ourselves struggling. |
| 0:25.3 | And when you're struggling, you're usually going to have a symptom, right? |
| 0:30.1 | If you are anxious or if you're depressed or in a relationship, if you have some fear, or you find yourself kind of agreeing to things you don't want to agree to, or you find yourself reacting, etc., etc., etc. |
| 0:46.3 | And then sometimes then you're, you know, trying to achieve goals. |
| 0:50.3 | You find you start and stall out. |
| 0:53.3 | You have great intentions and motivations, |
| 0:56.1 | but they don't come to fruition. And all of those are where we live. That's how we experience |
| 1:03.8 | a day to day in our real lives. But those are symptoms. Now, just like when you have a fever and you go to the doctor your doctor cares |
| 1:17.1 | about your symptoms i care about your symptoms i care about the way this is interfering with your |
| 1:22.1 | life if you're if you're coughing or you have a tummy ache or you're, you know, you have pain when you move your arm, |
| 1:29.3 | those symptoms matter. And one of the things that doctors always try to do is alleviate symptoms. |
| 1:37.3 | So they might tell you for your fever, you know, to take a Tylenol or something. |
| 1:43.3 | It might tell you for your joint pain to, you know, |
| 1:46.3 | take this medicine, or they might tell you for your stomach ache, you know, this will calm it down. |
| 1:53.1 | But the last thing a good doctor would do is just treat the symptom. Because if you don't get to the cause, then it's likely that symptom |
| 2:05.3 | is going to come back. Now, they might tell you, yeah, this is just something you ate and it's going to |
| 2:10.2 | pass. Sometimes that happens. Circumstantial things produce symptoms in us. But a good doctor is going to probably poke around a little bit, |
| 2:22.0 | look under the hood and find out, you know, |
| 2:23.8 | what is causing this symptom? |
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