Hello and welcome to Forever 35, a podcast about the things we do to take care of ourselves.

I'm Dori Shafrier.

And I'm Elise Hugh, and we are two friends who like to talk a lot about serums.

And today we are talking to the author and domestic equity advocate, Laura Danger.

You may have seen her TikToks. She kind of like got TikTok famous talking about domestic equity.

And we had a really interesting conversation with her about this stuff.

And it actually made me think about the conversation we were having at the end of our last mini up, Elise, about co-parenting.

Yeah.

You know, where you were saying you still, you're still the one who like makes the plans.

Yeah. Yeah. You know. So Laura in this interview talks a lot about how women, because of the way we're socialized, we end up having to be the kinkeepers. Like we maintain the relationships or make the friends with the other parents who could carpool or do play dates or help take your kids. And like,

that is an inequity. That's an area of inequity. And how can we equalize that? And so anyway,

I think y'all are going to enjoy this conversation. We got we certainly got a lot out of it.

And hopefully you got something from last week's episode too with Anne Helen Peterson. So this time of year, you know, as a lot of people are reflecting, looking back, but also looking forward. She put out some questions, stuff like, you know, what gave you energy, what drained it, when did you feel most joyful and carefree? And one that I wanted to pose to you, Dory, because, and we can ask each other these too

throughout the year, but like, because this is a show in which we really focus on how to

nurture our relationships, take better care of ourselves.

The question for you is, what habit, if you did it more consistently,

would have a positive effect on your life? Probably less iPad in bed. Hmm. How much time do you

spend on your iPad in bed? Well, if I wake up in the middle of the night, I reach for my iPad. Oh, I never mentioned this on the show, by the way, but this just like made me laugh. I recently saw my OBGYN for like my annual. And I really like her. She's younger. She had a, She had a baby like a few months ago.

She's like when I asked her for HRT, she like didn't even blink.

Like she she's very like up on all the research and all the things.

So I was saying to her, I don't know if I know if we need to like change my HRT because I'm

waking up in the middle of the night like all the time. And she was like, are you having

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