Episode 323 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Love and Limits Are Not Enemies - 1-27-2022
The Boundaries.me Podcast
Greg Bowler
4.7 • 815 Ratings
🗓️ 2 March 2022
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Our call system ran into some issues on this episode so all of the questions below were written-in during the live chat on YouTube and Facebook.
If your future sister-in-law tells you that boundaries are unbiblical and that Christians are to instruct and rebuke one another, are boundaries worth discussing with her? She’s telling my fiancé and me how to live our lives: how many times to attend church, what are sexual activities need to be, what we should do with finances, etc. What’s the best way to approach this? Should we try to show her why boundaries are healthy? Or should we just say, “Please keep your unsolicited advice to yourself. We’re not interested.”
How does someone communicate a boundary when it is always met with anger and defensiveness? That anger and defensiveness causes fear in the one trying to communicate the boundary and the person trying to set the boundary is living with the other person?
How do you deal with a “Pharisee ” who thinks they are telling you truth when it is really their opinion that you don’t agree with? They have bible verses to back up what they say. When I disagree they tell me I just don’t want to listen to truth.
How do I know what is my gut instinct and what is my anxiety not wanting me to do something? I am learning how to trust myself when making decisions.
My boyfriend admitted he has low EQ and he wants to grow in it, but I don’t think he knows how or where to start. How can I help and encourage him without becoming controlling or having high expectations?
How can I recognize when I’m making an assumption about someone. Especially a wrong assumption?
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| 0:00.0 | Hey guys, Dr. Henry Cloud here. |
| 0:09.5 | You're listening to a rebroadcast of the Dr. Cloud Show, which is my live radio program |
| 0:14.7 | that you can find on YouTube.com slash Dr. Henry Cloud or Facebook.com slash Dr. Henry Cloud. |
| 0:22.1 | If you want to listen live or even call in, let's take a listen. |
| 0:26.6 | Today, you can't call in because our lines are down here on the Dr. Cloud show, |
| 0:30.8 | but I can't welcome you to the program. |
| 0:32.8 | We're still going to be fighting the war against dysfunction, |
| 0:35.9 | one dynamic at a time, and you can still talk to me but |
| 0:39.9 | today you have to post your question on whatever platform you're listening or viewing on |
| 0:46.5 | that would be YouTube Instagram and Facebook are places where you ought to be able to find |
| 0:51.2 | the program right now and we'll do it that way. |
| 1:01.7 | You know, sometimes technology just kind of decides to take a day out. So one of our third-party software genius vendors is having a down day, and that's what hits us in to be able to talk to you. |
| 1:14.9 | So we pray for their quick recovery. How about that? So good to see you guys and hear from you. |
| 1:22.7 | I'm looking forward to talking today about all of your questions. |
| 1:28.3 | Let's hop into what we're going to talk about for a few minutes, |
| 1:33.3 | I thought for the day, and then start posting your questions. |
| 1:39.3 | We have entitled this something like love and limits are not enemies. Love and Limits are not enemies. |
| 1:51.0 | Love and limits are not enemies. Well, what is that? Okay. I want you to take a little trip here with me, maybe to your family of origin. |
| 2:06.3 | Or maybe to, if you're married, maybe your relationship now with your spouse and your kids. |
| 2:15.5 | Or maybe in a circle of friends how you look at a problem with somebody |
| 2:25.5 | that's struggling or maybe even inside of your own head because this problem lives in |
| 2:33.0 | our heads too so what the heck am I talking about? Well, |
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