there's a sort of specific directional arrow that we follow and this sort of deep

programming about what a relationship should like and these sort of values that

you're supposed to embody can make it very difficult for you to see ways in which the relationship might not

actually be healthy for you or for your spouse or for your kids or all of the above.

Hey everybody before we start the show I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general and some of those could be sensitive for you.

I want to simultaneously

but also respect and recognize your limitations.

So please use your best judgment.

I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely,

but feel free to feel it out check out the

episode and just see what happens if you need to skip that's okay but you know feel

free to give it a shot first I also need to say that while I am a psychologist

I'm not your psychologist psychologist I'm not your therapist.

This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a

substitute for professional help. So with those said let's go ahead and get into the

show. All varieties. This is the Hardcore Self-Help

Podcasts. All varieties. This is the Hardcore Self-Help Podcast, episode 321.

I'm your host Dr. Robert Duff, aka Duff of the Psych. I make mental health content for real people,

just like you. And today I have a question and answer

episode to really good questions from listeners like yourselves. If you want to

shoot me a question for the show please send me an email to duff the psych

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