Maybe it's just that you don't know how to use social courtesy.

Oh, that's all fashion.

Watch how Lizzie Post and Dan Post Senate.

Act as host and hostess.

They know that courtesy means showing respect, thinking of the other person,

real friendliness. Welcome to another episode of Awesome Etiquette. Our podcast comes to you from

the studios of Vermont Public Radio and is part of the Infinite Guest Network from American Public

Media. I'm Lizzie Post. And I'm Dan Post-Sending from the Emily Post Institute.

So, Dan, I want to talk about the phrase, I'm sorry.

I accept your apology fully.

Very cute. No, I mean, have you ever noticed that as someone is telling you about something difficult

and you say, I'm sorry, a lot of the times they'll fire back with oh it's not

your fault it's like wait no people I feel like they've forgotten that I'm sorry can also be a term of

sympathy that it's something we say to let someone know we feel badly for what they're going through

or what they're experiencing that we offer them

our sympathy in that moment. It's so often that I hear you remind people that when someone

presents you with something difficult, you can just be sympathetic and say, you know, I'm so

sorry to hear that. Yeah, you don't have to take responsibility. It's not always taking

responsibility. Now, there are times when

apologies need to happen. And the other thing that this brings to mind for me are the people

who apologize and they say, well, I'm sorry for that, but you, and they launch in. And I always,

I always struggle when I hear that. And I struggle when I'm the person who wants to say that because it's not that every situation.

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