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So I was reading your DM. Tell the world what we discussed in the day. We just went through the hearing.

So I'm in the process of going through a custody situation where I currently, although the paperwork doesn't show it, I have full custody of my kids.

My kids are with me. I have three children. I have two daughters, one son. And they have a 95% of their time.

When we originally separated, my wife and I were married for 18 years. And as I mentioned in my I.M. or my message, I'm a veteran.

I'd be discharged veteran. And when we first went through our separation, what I saw and what I could see and what I felt was how biased it seemed that the court system was towards men and very specifically towards veterans.

I started getting hit with all of this all of this PTSD conversation, accusations of domestic violence and things that I just had never done.

I put my hands on what but but when you have a background where you've been in the military and you have some things in your record, that seems to be very easy for people to believe.

And so it was an uphill battle. First of all, having to I had to take mental assessments to prove that I was competent to have and maintain my kids and be with my kids.

And I've always been the primary provider for my kids because it's all about them and their well-being at the end of the day.

Now does she lie and say something to them to get them to think that way? Because that's not something that you just do.

Yeah, I was hospitalized in 2017 due to depression. And she used that as a way to say with his military background and him being going through a depression, I don't think that he's a competent parent.

And that was the only thing that that was used. I never pressed it. I don't have a record of violence or any of that stuff, but it just seems that when the mom says those things, it is very easy to believe.

So I was from being the plaintiff in the situation where the next thing I know I was having to spend thousands of dollars to try and get that stuff cleared up before I could even approach entering into a settlement that both worked for her and for me.

Even though those things were done to me, I was trying to figure out a way to work it out with, you know, the kids would be taking care of and I would be taking care of.

But it just seems like the everything that I did as a dad, even the people that took me through these mental assessments and these things that I felt like was unnecessary.

Everything I did at every turn, even with lawyers, it just seems like there are so many hurdles when it comes to father trying to get full custody of his kids.

I read somewhere that 90% of custody cases end up with the mom having full custody. And out of those 90%, only 15% of the women that don't have full custody actually pay child support.

And only half of that percentage they actually go through with their particular support payments.

And so just in looking at everything from top to bottom, it's like the system, even down to finding lawyers who would really, really assist me and not believe the things that were actually just stated that that was a problem for me.

And so, frequently, we signed our final divorce settlement in June of last year.

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