Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.

I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of

the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to

hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process

with your sanity and your heart intact.

Hey everyone. Welcome back. I'm going to talk to you today about some of the things,

the patterns that I see

in working with clients and share some insights from those stories with you so that you can

hopefully apply them to your own divorces, your own processes, and your own therapies, all of that. One thing that I wanted to point out,

I have two clients that are struggling with similar things. And the way that they're handling

them is very different. It's sort of, well, they're in different places, right?

And I, and I'm not, I'm not disparaging where anybody is or what's happening.

But this is sort of important.

One is a client that I worked with a few months ago.

And I had explained to her specifically how to document her experiences with her ex-husband

throughout the process because her emotions were kind of getting the best of her.

And I outlined very specifically how to document, which I will explain to you in a minute, so that it would matter to the court so that a judge could look at it and say, oh, right, okay, that makes sense.

I understand and now I have to make this ruling. I spoke with her again this past week

and she said that she followed my instructions to the letter and she got everything that she asked

for when she went into court. Now that doesn't always happen, obviously. It also is the luck of the draw,

right? She happens to have a judge who is trained in being child-centered. This judge used to be a guardian ad litem, I think. So this judge actually is trained in what is best for the children, which most judges are not. So it really also

is the luck of the draw. And the way that she was able to present information was key in having

...