Episode #29: How and How-Not to set New Years Resolutions (for the Anxiety Sufferer)

Your Anxiety Toolkit - Anxiety & OCD Strategies for Everyday

Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT | Anxiety & OCD Specialist

Self-improvement, Education, Anxietymindfulnessmeditation, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 22 December 2017

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Happy Almost New Year!! Well, it's that time of year! You know, the time where you reflect on the year and set outrageous resolutions for the upcoming year. It is when you dwell on all the things you DIDN'T do last year that you said you would. During this podcast, I walk through a very successful way to set intentions for the upcoming Year, Month, Week, Day and even Hour! I walk you through why New Year's Resolutions rarely work and how I use Honesty and values to set goals that will improve self compassion, self-respect and effectiveness. I also give a few examples of how this applies to those with OCD, Eating Disorders, Social Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Last of all, I want to with you the HAPPIEST and SAFEST New Year! Forward we go! Kimberley

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0:00.0	Hello, my name is Kimberly Quinlan and this is your anxiety toolkit podcast. Well, welcome and
0:15.5	happy almost New Year's Day. It is almost 2018 and I'm so thrilled and grateful to have you here with me as we go
0:24.5	into another year of learning tools to manage anxiety and all the other emotions that go along with
0:30.8	that and just how to live a more mindful lifestyle. Just a quick note is probably in the next one or two podcasts, I'm going to give
0:40.2	you some super new, exciting news on my end. That hopefully is new and exciting for you too.
0:47.8	So stay tuned for that. I'm very excited to share with you some very exciting news.
1:01.8	But that being said, let's go into the topic of today's podcast, which is around the new year and how to set New Year's resolutions and the pros and cons of New Year's resolutions. I have some pretty strong opinions about this.
1:15.0	And so really what I want to do is talk with you about how you may do the resolution piece in a more
1:20.3	healthier way and see if it works for you. So let me tell you a little quick story. I used to set New Year's resolutions that were
1:31.4	very methodical and detailed. I would have personal development resolutions. I would have
1:38.3	family resolutions. I would have work resolutions. I would have fitness resolutions. I would
1:43.6	have health resolutions. I got have fitness resolutions. I would have health resolutions.
1:45.0	I got totally compulsive about this.
1:48.8	And while it felt very empowering and it felt fantastic to see the list and write it down and look at it and imagine how I'm going to be at the end of next year.
2:02.8	What really that ended up resulting in was quite a significant amount of anxiety, quite a lot of
2:12.0	stress. And in result of the extensive list, I found myself feeling more hopeless, which is not the goal
2:23.1	of a resolution, right? We set goals because we hope that they will motivate us. They hope that
2:28.5	they will set us in a direction that is better than what we did last year, right? And so I don't set resolutions anymore to be very clear.
2:38.2	I made a decision with my husband.
2:39.9	We agreed that this wasn't healthy and we put the pen down.
2:45.5	What I find is really helpful and what works so much better is I work now at setting intentions. Now, you might
2:57.6	say, well, what's really the difference between a resolution and an attention? For me, an intention
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