Episode 268: Reinventing Yourself After Divorce: Nikki Spo on Self-Discovery and Empowerment
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 23 May 2024
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
Oftentimes, we wrap our identities in this one thing - like marriage. What happens when it's over? This week, Nikki Spoelstra (Nikki Spo) joins me to discuss the transformative power of self-discovery through life's most challenging moments.
Nikki and I cover a range of important topics, including how self-esteem is built through self-knowledge, strategies for managing thoughts about divorce, emphasizing the importance of setting limits on dwelling on the past, and so much more. Nikki is a breath of fresh air for women going through hard times.
Join us as we discuss the intricate process of reinventing oneself after significant life changes, the importance of self-acceptance, and the journey to finding joy and worth within.
Featured topics:
- Nikki answers, "How did you reinvent yourself?" TLDR: "You do so, even when you're scared as shit." (7:18)
- Self-esteem is built through self-knowledge. (22:02)
- Apologizing is not the same thing as making amends. (26:11)
- Romanticizing friendships with your ex/co-parent: Don't compare your divorce or co-parenting relationship to others. It may evolve differently or stay the same forever. (29:59)
- Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting. (31:33)
- A reminder that you get to be the owner of your story, and people don't have to know all the details about your relationships or divorce (38:19)
Learn more about Nikki Spo:
Nikki Spoelstra is the host of The Know with Nikki Spo - a globally top-ranked podcast that highlights the stories of individuals who are finding and celebrating their deepest sense of inner knowing in a space where it's not about knowing everything, but about coming to know ourselves.
Covering topics that range from motherhood and business to wellness and self-care, The Know with Nikki Spo has been nominated for the People's Choice Podcast Award and is up for two coveted Gracie Awards, which honor exceptional women in podcasting and journalism.
Nikki is a single mom of three, has overcome tough life experiences with ferocity and grace, and is a compelling speaker of truths.
Resources & Links:
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Kate on Nikki's Podcast The Know with Nikki Spo
Nikki on Instagram @nikkisappspo
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:48.0 | Hey, everyone, welcome back. So just a couple of housekeeping notes here. So the first is, I just want to let you know that I have a couple of housekeeping notes here. So the first is I just want to let you know that I have a couple of spots available right now for private coaching. And private coaching with me really is about taking you where you're at and moving you forward into the next phase. |
| 1:15.3 | So if that is that you're trying to decide whether to stay or go and you need to make that |
| 1:19.9 | decision, that we will get you from point A to point B. |
| 1:23.7 | If that is strategizing through a high conflict divorce, that is what we'll do. |
| 1:31.9 | If it's healing from abuse or just from a divorce, that is what we'll do. |
| 1:39.4 | When you work with me, I work with you through effective documentation, creating concrete co-parenting |
| 1:46.2 | plans. Communication at every stage. Communication is really my sweet spot. It is my scripts are used all over. |
| 1:55.6 | Whether people know it or not. I create scripts from my clients all the time. And if you just are, you know, need to |
| 2:02.9 | recover and start over. I've worked with clients who, you know, they've been through the divorce, |
| 2:07.9 | but they just, that emotional piece of letting go has really been challenging. And so that is |
| 2:14.0 | another thing that I do with my private coaching clients. The beauty of private coaching is that it's yours. |
| 2:19.6 | You get to decide. |
| 2:20.8 | I have helped hundreds of women navigate all of these waters, divorcing, strategizing, trying |
| 2:29.9 | to decide healing. |
| 2:32.3 | I have an intensely deep level of understanding and experience when it comes to |
| 2:37.6 | all of this, the psychological and emotional aspects of the divorce and discernment processes. |
| 2:43.7 | I also save you money. I know that's a weird thing to say, but it's very true. I have a client recently, I have it on my |
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