Episode 266: Putting the G-Word in the D-Word with Barri Leiner Grant
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 9 May 2024
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
We are talking about a really important topic this week: grief. Grief is shocking in divorce. My guest Barri Leiner Grant, is a grief specialist and educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief we feel over an ended marriage. Barri divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing an imagined future. Putting the G-word in the D-word!
Featured topics:
- Why do we grieve a divorce? (2:16)
- Shame is a complicating factor in grief and divorce (8:49)
- The root cause of the shame and how to move through it (17:00)
- If we don't look at our grief head-on, it will grow like a weed
- Grief tending: what it is and how you can tend to your grief (21:18)
- Exploring who you are now and who you want to be (28:35)
Learn more about Barri Leiner Grant:
Barri Leiner Grant is a grief specialist and educator and the founder of The Memory Circle -- a place and space she created for those who have experienced both death and non-death losses. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Psychology Today, and Maria Shriver's Sunday paper, among many other media outlets. She is an author who shares her personal experiences of loss widely. She divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing a future imagined. Putting the G-word in the D-word!
Resources & Links:
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:48.0 | Hey everyone. Welcome back. Today we are talking about a really important topic and a really difficult one. It's about |
| 0:58.1 | grief. Grief can be really shocking when you get divorced. Like if you perhaps were the one who |
| 1:07.2 | quote wanted it, I hear all the time from my clients and people in my groups, |
| 1:12.6 | like, I wanted this. Why am I so sad? Right? First of all, no one ever wants it. No one wants to |
| 1:21.1 | divorce, right? We had a future that we imagined, that we dreamed of, and now we are being cut off from that, |
| 1:32.9 | whether we have made the decision ourselves or it was made for us. |
| 1:38.3 | We never imagined this. |
| 1:40.9 | And here we are, right? |
| 1:42.8 | So my guest today is Barry Liner Grant, and she is a grief specialist and an |
| 1:48.1 | educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief that we feel when our |
| 1:56.7 | marriages end. Barry divorced after a 17-year marriage, and she helps name grief and grieving for |
| 2:03.1 | others who have experienced losing this imagined future. Without further ado, here is my |
| 2:09.5 | conversation with Barry Liner Grant. Barry, thank you so much for coming on to talk about this really important topic. |
| 2:21.7 | Grief. |
| 2:22.5 | I mean, I think it's a topic that we don't talk about nearly enough, especially in non-death loss. |
| 2:28.9 | Yes, yes. |
| 2:30.9 | You know, one of the things that I always hear from my clients, my followers, my Facebook group, whatever, is like, you know, quote, I wanted this, which of course, they didn't, right? |
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