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It's conditional. It's conditional friendship as opposed to unconditional friendship.

Absolutely, but again, the only friends that we were really allowed to have

was our upline and downline. And so you know you could talk

casually with these people but even in your upline and downline it was just not, you know, it was very

artificial. artificial, yeah.

One of the other checklists that's on the bite model that is interesting to me,

that happened to me, and see if that happened to you, were you encouraged to spy on other people in your organization and

report back if they were doing things wrong?

No, I, like to monitor to make sure that people, or was that just strictly you were just

supposed to monitor your downline?

You weren't supposed to monitor.

Like you said, you don't talk talk laterally so there probably wasn't that

yeah exactly yeah no it wasn't really that you know they I mean there was a lot of mmm making sure that people are doing what they're supposed to do unspoken there was a lot of unspoken like, I don't know, like, you know, you would be like, well, you know, I've seen people do this and what they would do is they would you know like if I saw somebody doing something that I was like hey is this is this you know good or bad or should we be doing something like this I I go to my upline about it, you know, and they would tell me,

hey, no, no, no, that's like, you know, that's not the way we do things in our, you know, line of sponsorship. And then, you you know the next meeting they'd be talking about it and they'd be like okay this is you know this is not what we do you know so they kind of make an announcement but they they pretended like they were always super classy and better than all the other

MLM, so they try not to get like that. And they always said like, oh, you know, we'll totally

be your friends even if you leave and I never got like publicly

humiliated or shunned for leaving but I'm telling you they completely blocked me out because we have not earned their time anymore now that we've chosen to stuff out.

Right, you're losers now. They don't have time for losers. You lost sorry. Well in the way they talk about it too and this is something that kind of goes into that very, very black and white thinking. You know, they're like, you know, people leave this business because they say that this way of making money is quote unquote not their cup of tea, you know, but you know, okay, so financial freedom isn't your cup of tea. What you know making sure that your wife doesn't have to work a job and can stay home with the kids that's not your cup of tea almost like if you consider any other way of making money

then, you know, you're not a good person.

It's not that it's am way or the highway. That is not reality people like there are so many other ways to make money there's so many other ways to have fulfillment in your life and guess what you can work a

freaking job and have fulfillment. I love my job right now. I think my job is

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