Episode 250: How to Navigate an Open Adoption (w/ Jori Victory)

The Forgotten Podcast

The Forgotten Initiative

Fostercare, Adoption, Family, Kids & Family, Christian

4.9 • 532 Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2024

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Open adoptions began in 1975, but they didn’t become more common until the 1990s. Today, 9 out of 10 adoptions are open. While open adoptions are far more common today, adoptive parents may have concerns and fears about navigating that relationship with a child's birth parents. Likewise, birth parents are often worried about finding the place they belong in the process and entrusting someone else to care for their child while still maintaining a relationship.

Today, I have the privilege of learning from and listening to someone who was formerly in foster care and who is also a birth mother. Jori Victory is an advocate for healthy, open adoption, mental health resources, and post-placement care for birth mothers. She lives in Utah with her four children.

In this episode, Jori shares with us her experience of navigating the birth and adoptive parent relationship, the importance of remaining in a child’s life, the loss that can come with not knowing your biological parents, and the challenge of discovering your identity in the midst of complex circumstances.

Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: https://theforgotteninitiative.org/jori-victory-250/

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0:00.0	Sharing the stories of the foster care community.
0:04.0	This is The Forgotten podcast.
0:08.8	To be able to grow a relationship with her has been really great and healing and challenging.
0:19.8	It was really, really healing for me. And it really was like putting
0:25.2	pieces of my heart back together.
0:28.1	Hey, it's Jamie Cabe. Welcome back to the Forgotten podcast, where we are highlighting
0:33.4	the stories of the people of foster care. With every episode, our goal is to help you better
0:39.0	understand the foster care community. We want to bring you hope and encouragement in your
0:43.8	journey and help you support the agency workers, foster parents, vulnerable adults, and children
0:49.7	in foster care right where you live. If you want to learn more about TFI, catch up on past episodes,
0:56.6	read engaging articles, or partner with us on mission with a gift of any amount, head over to
1:03.0	the forgotten initiative.org. We are in this together. Okay, it is time. Let's do this. Today we get the privilege of learning from and listening to
1:25.2	someone who was formally in foster care and who is a birth
1:29.4	mother. Jory Victory is an advocate for healthy, open adoption, mental health, and post-placement
1:35.9	care for birth mothers. She lives in Utah with her four children. Jory, thank you so much for being
1:42.4	with us today. No, thank you so much for having me, really.
1:45.8	Be happy to have you on.
1:47.4	And I want to start here and I want to just talk about motherhood.
1:51.4	When you think about motherhood, what are some emotions that come into your mind?
1:56.6	Oh, motherhood.
1:58.2	It is the greatest, hardest, hardest job I've ever had. I almost feel like I can say,
2:06.0	you know, I don't get paid for it. But on the back end, I do because raising these four kids is
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