Welcome back to the Aneagram Journey. We have a couple of questions today that I'm going

to respond to and I think the second one is going to lead us probably through the rest

of this episode. Joel's with me. He's always a good helper with questions and has a lot

to contribute so you'll be hearing from both of us. I hope.

Hey Suzanne, I love your books and I love your podcast. Thank you so much for the ways

you've impacted my life. I'm a three on the Aneagram and I have a nagging question. Why

is it so hard for me to trust people enough to delegate and how do I get over it? So I'm

a solo per newer meaning I'm a solo entrepreneur and I really need to hire some things out. But

so often people just do poor work or just flake out and I can't get past feeling like

it would be better to do everything myself. Even though I know I can't actually do it

all myself. My standards aren't all that high. I mean I want things done well but I'm

not asking for perfection and I'm fine delegating and important things like cleaning the house

or landscaping. But when when it comes to something that I see is important, well I just

don't know how to find people that I can trust. Thank you so much.

Hi Julie. Thank you for the question. It's really a good one. I want to start by talking

just a little bit about the difference in three's and one's in case people listening

think, oh I do that but I thought I was a one. So you did a good job with differentiating

the two. I just want to say that the difference maybe is that you want to be the best and

ones need things to be perfect and you cut corners and ones don't cut corners. So let's

begin to unpackage the things that you said starting with wise it's so hard for me to

delegate. You know one of the things I've learned as I've been teaching the anygram for

the last 25 years is that there's only one number on the anygram that likes group project

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