Welcome to the Any Gram Journey. For the next two weeks, Joel and I are going to spend

some time talking about the questions that you've sent in and some things you'd like

for me to elaborate on in relationship to the Any Gram. And I'm really looking forward

to this time. It's my favorite way to teach, actually.

So the first question is going to come from Audrey Brin. She's sent me a Facebook. She

says, I'm two and for a long time, my husband thought he was a four. I always assumed because

fours are so complicated, I just didn't understand him or fours and then that's why it never

clicked with me that he was a four. But hearing Suzanne teach the ones at the White Christian

Any Gram Workshop, I'm convinced he's a one. When I got home and read my notes to him,

he immediately started to cry. As it turns out, he's not a quote unquote typical one and

that he would much prefer not to try to start something for fear of not doing it right.

My question is, can a one's perfectionism paralyze them or is his lack of initiative evidence

that he isn't one? Actually that kind of speaks to the fact that he is a one.

We can look at all the numbers and see some procrastination in their behavior and causes

for that. One's procrastinate and the reason they procrastinate is because they don't

want us start something or they don't want to try to do something that they don't think

they can do well. Probably he's a one who experiences a lot of stress, which is why

you thought he was a four. One's got a four in stress and that begins to feel like kind

of a helpless place. For ones, it's a feeling of I'm alone in this and I'm the only one who cares

enough that we do this exactly right and I can't take care of everything and I try harder

than other people do. And then when it gets to the point where it moves into stress and

there's some four behavior there, then it almost looks like depression at times. And it's

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