Episode 242: What Your Spouse Needs From You (Christian Marriage Series Part 2 of 3)
Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood
Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof
4.8 • 801 Ratings
🗓️ 17 March 2026
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
This week, Cynthia and Dr. Ken continue their three-part series on marriage by unpacking some of the most common misunderstandings couples bring into relationships and what actually strengthens connection over time.
From questionable advice heard in church classes to the classic “never go to bed angry” rule, the conversation starts with a few laughs before getting into why so many couples feel disconnected even when they genuinely want the same thing.
Throughout the conversation, Dr. Ken addresses the fears many couples bring into marriage. Wives often fear being alone or unseen, while husbands often fear they’re failing or not measuring up. When those realities go unrecognized, even everyday conversations can turn into frustration. Dr. Ken explains how small shifts in the way spouses listen, respond, and support each other can change the tone of a marriage and help couples reconnect in practical ways.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth to Bight You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world. |
| 0:15.3 | I'm Cynthia Yanov, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author Dr. Ken Wilgus. |
| 0:20.5 | We're back for week number two and we're talking marriage. |
| 0:24.8 | Are you ready, Dr. Ken? |
| 0:26.0 | What I love is that this is the next week and I'm wearing the same shirt I was wearing last week. |
| 0:30.9 | Yeah, it's weird that you wear the same clothes. |
| 0:33.1 | It's part of magic. |
| 0:34.3 | Yes, magic. |
| 0:36.0 | Okay. |
| 0:36.9 | I thought we could start by maybe sharing the worst marriage advice we received early on in our marriages. |
| 0:45.0 | And I've got two that I think are bad. And one of them maybe is controversial because maybe one of you agree with. |
| 0:50.6 | But here's the first one I think everyone would say uniformly was kind of weak. |
| 0:54.9 | And listen, I have been in church my entire life. And this was something I heard at church. And I want |
| 1:00.3 | you to know I love the church and I love the people of the church. This is just kind of a wonky one. |
| 1:05.0 | So I was newlyish married and pregnant. And I went to this class that an older, very old school couple |
| 1:14.5 | taught in their home about marriage and having your first child. And the woman said, |
| 1:19.9 | now listen, ladies, I know you're pregnant. You're getting big. But listen, you better be looking |
| 1:26.0 | good. Like you need to keep dolling up and |
| 1:27.8 | being cute because if not he's got a secretary and she'll meet his needs and we were all like |
| 1:32.1 | oh oh my gosh you know and i'll tell you what i was i i i really dolled it up in that pregnancy i mean |
| 1:38.7 | i was puffy as all get out and everything else but i mean i threw on the makeup and the hair and i and i gave a stern |
| 1:45.5 | eye to his secretary um at work every time i walked by but anyway i i joking i was like what kind of advice |
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