Episode 221: Parenting with Peace: Letting Go of Punishments and Finding Connection with Michelle Kenney

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.4 • 574 Ratings

🗓️ 15 June 2023

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Do you spend most of the time feeling like you are doing parenting all wrong? Are you often doling out punishments but really wish you had more connection and calm with your kids? Michelle Kenney, a parenting coach, returns for a conversation about how to let go of punishments and find peace in parenting instead.

Parenting without the use of threats, bribes, and consequences is possible. But can you raise a great kid without using these parenting tactics? The answer is "Yes!" In this episode, Michelle breaks down how to parent without yelling or using manipulative methods. And, y'all, I learned so much from this conversation. I hope you will too!

Michelle is a mother of two, and after years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. Today Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.

Featured topics include:

Parenting without yelling or consequences starts with creating a connection with your child (3:48)
Mutual cooperation is the goal (8:21)
How to co-parent with someone who has a different parenting style (9:10)
Punishment erodes trust and engagement; instead, aim for empathy and holding boundaries (14:32)
Some ways to build and foster connection with your children (22:54)
How to take care of yourself while parenting (27:48)

Learn more about Michelle Kenney:

Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls, 12 and 15. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life.

She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative. Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to overcoming difficulties.

Michelle has helped herself, and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems. Aggression, fears, withdrawal, and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a Master's Degree in Education, speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator, and is an ADL Trainer fighting against bias of all types on school campuses.

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Unpunished: How to Let Go of Punishments and Find Your Parenting Peace

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.8	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of
0:23.3	the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to
0:29.1	hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process
0:35.1	with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:44.6	Hey, everyone. Welcome back. So do you feel like you spend your life threatening your kids, trying, go sort of vacillating between being
0:59.9	punitive and threatening punishments and timeouts or you know and then just wanting to
1:06.7	connect with them and and you just feel like maybe you're doing parenting all wrong. I totally get it.
1:16.2	Me too. Anyway, my guest today is Michelle Kenny and she is a parenting coach. She's the owner of
1:25.4	peace and parenting and she has a new book out called
1:29.0	Unpunished. And I will tell you that I learned a lot from this conversation because, you know,
1:40.6	I still struggle so much with all of this, and my kid is almost 18.
1:45.2	So, Michelle is, she's the mother of two girls, as well as a former teacher and counselor
1:52.5	turned certified parenting instructor.
1:55.1	And after years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, sound familiar, she finally reshaped the relationship she shares with heres and star charts. Sound familiar.
2:04.7	She finally reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters and credits peaceful parenting for changing her life.
2:07.8	Michelle considers herself a recovering yeller, perfectionist and control freak, who is found
2:12.1	a more calm and connected way to parent.
2:17.2	Using the ideas of brain science as her guide and working on childhood hurts as her deeper
2:23.0	work, she helps other parents do what she has been able to do for herself over the last
2:28.9	decade.
2:30.5	Like I said, I learned a lot from this episode.
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