Episode 218: Hoovering: How Your Toxic Ex Can Suck You Back In with Dr. Heidi Brocke
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 25 May 2023
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
This week we are talking about hoovering. If the term is new to you, hoovering is a tactic an ex-partner might use to suck you back into the relationship. When you try to leave a toxic relationship, it can be scary, unknown, and you may start second-guessing yourself. Dr. Heidi Brocke returns to help us understand what hoovering is and shares the signs so you can avoid being lured back into a toxic relationship.
Dr. Heidi Brocke is the perfect person to talk about hoovering because she is a toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. She has turned her past into her passion as she provides hope, healing, and freedom to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors.
Featured topics and insights include:
- If you feel like shit all the time in your relationship, something is wrong. (8:00)
- The three things seen during the love-bombing stage and how that connects to hoovering. (9:19)
- As soon as an ex starts feeling insecure about the loss of the relationship, that is when the hoovering typically begins. (13:13)
- The tactics and signs of hoovering. (13:57)
- This has nothing to do with you or the relationship, it has everything to do with the fact your ex feels insecure and is looking to regain power and control. (30:19)
Learn more about Dr. Heidi Brocke:
As a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist, Dr. Heidi Brocke has turned her past into her passion as she provides hope, healing, and freedom to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. After 24 years in healthcare, she has now moved on to use her life experience and her education to be the person she needed when she herself was trapped in the darkness of an unhealthy relationship. Through education, Dr. Heidi presents to her clients the understanding they need to empower themselves to walk through fear and into freedom. She has been featured in Forbes, Time Magazine, and Thrive Global for her dedication to her clients and her work in the toxic relationship area. Her podcast, "It's Not Normal It's Toxic," has reached clients and followers worldwide, now with over 1 million downloads. She plans to continue her mission to educate as many as possible on the effects of toxic relationships and emotional abuse.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:45.8 | Hey, everyone, welcome back. |
| 0:48.9 | Dr. Heidi Brockie is back with us today, and we are talking about hoovering. And I love Dr. Heidi's take on this. |
| 0:59.1 | She has some really excellent points about what hoovering is and how to avoid being hoovered |
| 1:06.9 | back into your toxic relationship. And Dr. Heidi is the perfect person to talk about this because |
| 1:13.5 | she is a toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. She has turned her past into her |
| 1:21.1 | passion and she provides hope, healing, and freedom to those whose lives have been affected by |
| 1:26.1 | toxic relationships, emotional abuse, |
| 1:28.2 | and narcissistic behaviors. After 24 years in health care, she has now moved on to use her life |
| 1:35.5 | experience and her education to be the person she needed, and we all do, when she was trapped |
| 1:42.5 | in the darkness of an unhealthy relationship. |
| 1:45.9 | Unfortunately, Dr. Heidi and I got, I think we got divorced at a similar time. |
| 1:51.4 | So she's the person I needed too. |
| 1:55.8 | But lucky for you guys, you have us now. |
| 1:59.5 | So without further ado, here is my conversation with Dr. Heidi Brocky. |
| 2:09.7 | Dr. Heidi Brocky, thank you so much for coming back on the podcast. |
| 2:15.7 | Sometimes we get into conversations and we don't stop. So this should be a, |
| 2:21.0 | I just, I just adore collaborating with you and talking to you. So, so we decided that today we really |
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