EPISODE 211: Ask A Sex Therapist: Penis Pumps, Pegging, + Postpartum Sex

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 5 June 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Ask a sex therapist is back! Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately deleted your search history? 🥵 In this week’s episode, Vanessa (a sex therapist with 20+ years of experience) and Xander (her ever-curious, regular dude husband) answer your most personal, pressing, wait-am-I-the-only-one? questions about sex, intimacy, and everything in between. Here’s what we’re diving into: Is it weird if my partner and I don’t kiss during sex? (Pretty Woman, anyone?) What exactly is pegging? Is it normal for other things to be “better than sex”? Can using a penis pump have consequences? Should you get a vasectomy? (Xander’s in the club!) Postpartum sex — what are men really thinking? Can responsive/spontaneous desire be taught? Like can you switch your type? ❤️ Ready to go deeper? Your questions deserve more than just a quick answer. Inside our monthly membership Deeper, we help you actually take the next step — with expert-designed tools, guided content, live sessions with us, and unlimited access to Vanessa AI (your 24/7 virtual sex and relationship coach). 🎉 Podcast listeners get 25% off your first month! Use the code PILLOW at checkout right here 👉🏻 https://vmtherapy.com/deeper Resources Mentioned: Ultimate Foreplay Guides 👉🏻 https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay Ultimate Sex Guides 👉🏻 https://buy.vmtherapy.com/ultimate-sex-guide?ref=podcast-211&utm_term=podcast-211 🎧 Stay connected: 📸 Follow us on Instagram ➡️ ⁠https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander⁠ 💌 Get our weekly email — with behind-the-scenes stories, expert tips, and so many sex puns. Sign up here 👉🏻 ⁠vmtherapy.com/subscribe⁠ 🎧 Never miss an episode! Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Is it normal for things to be better than sex?
0:03.2	Does having a vasectomy make you less of a man trying to decide if I want to get one?
0:08.7	I don't know. Am I less of a man?
0:10.6	Does using a penis pump have a negative impact after use?
0:14.9	Great question.
0:15.9	Let's just get right into that.
0:17.9	I'm asking for a friend.
0:20.5	Is it normal? My husband and I don't kiss during sex.
0:24.1	What is pegging? All right. I mean, we just got real straight down to business here. Pegging is
0:30.6	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.
0:40.3	We're your host, Vanessa, and Zander Marin.
0:42.9	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:46.0	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:47.5	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques
0:51.7	for improving yours.
0:53.2	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly
0:55.0	double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest
1:00.9	stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex
1:06.7	education you wish you'd had. Today we are back with one of our favorite episodes,
1:14.3	Ask a Sex Therapist. We put a question box up on Instagram and we said, ask away, any question,
1:22.1	especially the questions that maybe you've been too nervous to Google, even on incognito mode.
1:26.7	Too nervous to ask anyone, too nervous
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