EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 15 May 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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In this episode, we’re giving you a realistic, 4-week plan to help you and your partner get out of that relationship rut — even if you're super busy, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected. No grand gestures. No impossible checklists. Just simple, thoughtful actions you can start this week to feel closer again — emotionally and physically. Here’s what we’re covering: The difference between a rut and a red flag 🚩 How we define “realistic” connection (especially if you’ve got zero bandwidth) A step-by-step, week-by-week game plan you can follow Specific daily, midweek, and weekend actions to help you reconnect Why it’s okay to not feel fireworks right away — and what to focus on instead A challenge to get started right now 👀 Whether you’ve been together 2 years or 20, this plan can help you feel like a team again — without adding more stress to your plate. LINKS & RESOURCES 📝 4-Week Relationship Reset PDF — Your Companion Workbook for EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix ➡︎ https://free.vmtherapy.com/4-week-reset 👋 The Art of Initiation — your guide to making initiation feel easier, sexier, and more satisfying ➡︎ https://buy.vmtherapy.com/art-of-initiation?ref=podcast-208&utm_term=-podcast-208 💖 Deeper Membership — full access to our relationship toolkit, core courses, live monthly sessions, and more ➡︎ https://vmtherapy.com/deeper ✅ Turn Me On: Your Initiation Style Guide — a free guide to discover your unique initiation style (and how to use it!) ➡︎ https://free.vmtherapy.com/initiation-style-guide STAY CONNECTED 📸 Follow us on Instagram @vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email — with behind-the-scenes stories, expert tips, and so many sex puns 👉🏻 Sign up here! 🎧 Never miss an episode! Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! ========================= THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================= 👏 Thanks Blissy. Get better sleep, hair, and skin with Blissy. Get an additional 30% off ➡︎ https://blissy.com/PILLOWPOD. 👏 Thanks ZocDoc. Download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. ➡︎ https://zocdoc.com/pillow 👏Thank you goPure. For a limited time, get 25% off. ➡︎ https://www.gopurebeauty.com/PILLOW 👏Thanks Wild Alaskan. Get $35 off your first box of premium, wild-caught seafood. ➡︎ https://wildalaskan.com/PILLOW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello. So after we recorded this episode, we realized, holy crap, that was a super valuable
0:06.8	episode. And we shared so many tangible strategies and this really comprehensive game plan. And we realized,
0:14.1	as you're listening to it, it's going to be hard to keep track of everything because there are
0:18.6	just so many aspects of this game plan that we go over.
0:21.7	So to save you from having to take a million notes, we designed a free workbook to accompany this
0:26.8	episode that's going to walk you through the exact steps and exercises that we talk about in today's
0:32.5	episode. So head on over to the show notes. We will link it for you there. We highly recommend downloading it.
0:38.6	It's just going to make listening to this episode so much more enjoyable because you'll
0:42.1	know you already have the outline there for you.
0:44.9	And we really want you to take action with this episode too.
0:47.7	So having that workbook will make sure that you actually follow through on trying all
0:52.0	these tips and techniques.
0:53.3	So head on over to the show notes for that free workbook.
0:57.4	44% of people.
0:59.1	That's almost half of people.
1:01.2	Damn.
1:01.8	Said yes, currently in a rut.
1:05.4	I also asked, like I gave one of the options was not now, but we've had one in the past.
1:11.0	40% of people said that they have had at least one rut in the past and never had a rut, 5% of liars.
1:21.6	Wow.
1:23.0	I mean, great for the five.
1:25.0	You know, it's 5% of people that haven't been in relationships very long.
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