EPISODE 206: Butt Stuff 101: Everything You’re Too Afraid To Ask

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 May 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

We’re bringing back a fan favorite this week… and yep, we’re going there. Butt stuff. 🍑 Back in 2021, we dropped an episode all about backdoor play, and it quickly became one of our most popular episodes of all time. With over 200 Pillow Talks episodes under our belts now, we figured it was time to make it a little easier to find the gems — so for the first time ever, we’re re-airing one of our top episodes. Whether you’re a little butt-curious or already a full-blown booty enthusiast, there’s something in this one for you. Because here’s the deal: 👉 72% of our Instagram fam said they were intimidated by anal play. 👉 But 67% also said they were curious about trying it. That means even if you’re nervous… you’re still open. And we love that. In this episode, we cover: Why butt stuff might be worth a try (even if you’re scared) The biggest myths and misconceptions (hint: it’s not just anal sex) How to keep things safe, hygienic, and pain-free Why more straight men are embracing the backdoor (and loving it) Your most vulnerable Qs — from hairy buttholes to hemorrhoids to the “what if vaginal sex doesn’t feel like enough after?” convo Oh — and if you’ve listened before? It’s still worth a re-listen. You might hear something new, have a totally different take four years later, or finally feel ready to give it a try. 😉 Last call for two spicy fan favorites 🔥 We just launched our brand-new membership, **Deeper** — which gives you instant access to all of our core courses, monthly double dates with us, VanessaAI, and more. With that, we’re officially retiring a few of our a la carte guides—including two of our best sellers: 👉 Butt Stuff 🍑 (only available inside of DEEPER) 👉 Dirty Talk 101 (only available inside of DEEPER) 🍑 What's so great about butt stuff? (Our FREE Guide) Stay Connected 💌 Get our best tips, stories, and sex & relationship advice: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🛋️ Come hang with us on Instagram 🎧 Subscribe & review — New episodes drop every Thursday! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave us a review — it helps us keep creating content you love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I do think some people, especially with things that we feel nervous about, we often need like a couple of rounds of encouragement to give you that courage to actually try it out.
0:09.2	All right.
0:09.4	So what are we actually going to cover?
0:10.7	We're going to talk about why you really should consider about stuff.
0:13.8	Spoiler alert.
0:15.0	It's pleasurable for both parties.
0:17.5	It is.
0:29.6	Hello. with parties. It is. Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your host, Vanessa, and Zander Marin. I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience. And I'm just a regular
0:34.6	dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
0:41.1	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,
0:47.7	hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more.
0:53.9	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:58.4	We are bringing back a fan favorite this week.
1:02.0	Oh, yeah.
1:02.7	We're talking about butt stuff.
1:05.6	We're going there.
1:06.5	Oh, I thought you were going to maybe do butt stuff with me in unison.
1:09.1	Can we do it?
1:09.6	Yeah.
1:10.2	We're talking about butt stuff. Oh, yeah thought you were going to maybe do butt stuff with me in unison. Can we do it? Yeah. We're talking about butt stuff.
1:13.4	Oh, yeah.
1:15.0	So we polled our audience on Instagram and we asked,
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