Episode 204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 April 2025

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever joked about “peeing just a little” when you sneeze, or you’re the kind of person who always has to know where the bathroom is, this one’s for you. Vanessa is sharing her personal (and super vulnerable) journey with bladder issues: how it started, the surprising symptoms, the anxiety it caused, and the expert-backed tools and tricks that actually helped. We asked our community if they’ve experienced bladder problems — and 62% of women said yes. So if you’re in that group, or just curious to hear a side of health and intimacy we’ve never talked about before, tune in. This episode might just be a game changer for you. Here’s a peek at what we cover: That awkward moment when you realize… something’s off The role of pelvic floor physical therapy (and who V followed to learn more) Bad habits no one tells you are actually bad The urologist visit from hell (you won’t believe what they said) How Vanessa trained her bladder like a dog (yes, really) Small changes that made a HUGE difference — and why Vanessa finally sleeps through the night Disclaimer: This episode is based on personal experience and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your doctor about your individual health needs. Links & resources in the episode: Expecting and Empowered The Vagina Whisperer 👉 Ready to level up your skills in (and out of) the bedroom? Grab The Ultimate Sex Guide for sex therapist-backed tips that’ll have you saying “oh my GOD… I didn’t know it could be this good?” — or get that AND everything we offer inside Deeper, our super affordable membership packed with steamy tools, date night ideas, live coaching, and more. Think of it as your all-access pass to better sex, connection that lasts, and WAY more fun together! Stay connected: 💌 Get our best tips and resources straight to your inbox: vmtherapy.com/subscribe 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @vanessaandxander 🎧 Never miss an episode — make sure to follow Pillow Talks wherever you listen to podcasts! Thanks to our sponsors: 👏 Thanks Blissy. Get better sleep, hair, and skin with Blissy. Get an additional 30% off ➡︎ https://blissy.com/PILLOWPOD 👏 Thanks ZocDoc. Download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. ➡︎https://www.zocdoc.com/pillow 👏Thanks Alloy. Get $20 off your first order today. ➡︎ https://myalloy.com/PILLOW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	And I'm saying right now, you know, we're talking about peeing and needing to pee even when you don't need to pee.
0:07.2	And I'm thinking about it.
0:09.2	Mm-hmm.
0:09.4	I'm not going to do it.
0:10.7	If you right now are listening and you're like, I kind of have to pee too.
0:12.8	Keep listening because you probably have some peeing issues.
0:15.7	Keep listening and don't pee.
0:29.5	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your host, Vanessa, and Zander Marin.
0:35.0	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience. And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step
0:38.0	techniques for improving yours. Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of
0:42.8	totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what
0:48.8	really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:57.4	So today is a very different kind of episode for us.
1:02.8	We're talking about something that we've never talked about before
1:06.2	and sharing a really personal story today.
1:10.7	We're talking all about my bladder journey. Yeah. and sharing a really personal story today.
1:11.1	We're talking all about my bladder journey.
1:15.8	Words that I never thought I'd be saying
1:18.1	on a public platform.
1:21.3	But here we are.
1:23.3	We're talking about the bladder today.
1:24.6	I mean, we've done a, we did a vasectomy issue,
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