Good morning and welcome to the Increase Your Impact Podcast. I'm Justin Sua, episode 2001.

I learned many years ago that every value, every strength has a shadow side. The shadow side of

kindness is being walked all over. The shadow side of being honest is being seen as a jerk sometimes.

The shadow side of humility can sometimes turn into lack of confidence. I have seen multiple times

where athletes have shared with me that their humility or their selflessness has turned

into a shadow side. The shadow side of not

advocating for themselves. The shadow side of of humility and being selfless can turn into

putting others above their own, where they allow others to take their time, take their energy, and take their time, energy, and

sacrifice their own time energy attention for the benefit of others.

Now, there are times where, yes, you want to sacrifice for the betterment of your team

and for your teammates and for others.

However, when it comes at the cost of your energy and your dreams and your goals and what you want to achieve,

then it can become detrimental. It can start to hurt your confidence. It can start to

impede your ability to achieve what you want.

And it can be perceived as you not really caring or not being assertive.

And so if this is anyone of you or somebody that you know, the key to navigating this is number one is to reconnect to what you want.

What do you want to accomplish?

What is your why?

What is your purpose?

And then number two, having the ability to state what you want to articulate to other people,

these are my goals and this is what I want to accomplish.

And number three is to provide boundaries to be able to say, hey, these are the things that I'm

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