On WhatsApp, your personal messages stay private, between you and whoever you sent them to.

So, things like your passport number for your honeymoon stay between you and your fiancé.

And those hour-long calls with mum stay between the two of you.

Even your streaming service password stays between you and your flatmates, who still ask for it every week in your group chat.

Because on WhatsApp, your personal messages are yours. No one else can see or hear them.

Not even us.

WhatsApp. Message privately.

Maybe it's just that you don't know how to use social courtesy.

Oh, that's old-fashioned.

Watch how Lizzie Post and Dan Post-Scenic.

Act as host and hostess.

They know that courtesy means showing respect, thinking of the other person, real friendliness.

Hello!

And welcome to awesome etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration,

respect, and honesty.

On today's show, we take your etiquette questions about celebrating mom's wedding when she wants

to keep it low-key, handling a friend who won't let you live down a bad recommendation,

how to handle gifts when you decline a wedding invitation, and dealing with daters who offer to pay

and then ask for half when the check comes.

Plus, your most excellent feedback etiquette salute and part one of a two-part post-cript

segment on the myth of how Emily's book etiquette came to be. We're going to be looking at Laura Clarege's biography for a bit more of the truth.

For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members, your extra question of the week is about declining to recommend someone on social media.

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