That is going to feel so much more attractive and appealing and exciting to you because it feels novel.

Not only is it a different person where naturally there is the novelty there, but it's also like,

ooh, you're giving me something that I am not getting from my partner.

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Zander, did you know before looking at the note that we have in our notes for this episode? But before that, did you know that 80% of people in long-term relationships say they wish their partner would

flirt with them more. I know that now. but honestly I'm not really that surprised I think that

flirtation really fades quickly in long-term relationships I think we associate flirting with something that we do to kind of like

get a relationship, not even in a relationship, like you use it to get somebody's attention

for the first time, maybe even to get a first date on a first date.

And it's like once you start dating for real, you don't need to flirt anymore.

There's that. I mean, we're going to get into reasons why people don't flirt, but I also think like the majority

of us feel like we don't know how to flirt.

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