Episode 162: Listener Q&A: How Can I Cope with Guilt Post-Divorce? Is My New Relationship Healthy? How Do I Co-Parent When My Ex Has a New Partner?
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 573 Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2022
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
This week I answer two co-parenting questions: one relates to how open to be with children about the details of your divorce, and the other has to do with co-parenting when your ex has a new partner. I also discuss mindset and mental health post-divorce, including how to cope with feelings of guilt or shame; and how to know if your new relationship is healthy for you.
In this episode, I answer these listener questions:
- How can I talk to my kids about the divorce process when leaving an emotionally and psychologically abusive marriage? There are things I can't tell them in order to respect their relationship with my ex. How do I let them know I am taking a stand, his behavior was not okay, but also respect their relationship with him?
- How do you know if your new relationship is healthy? After divorcing a narcissist, I am finding it hard to trust a new man and myself fully. But, I don't want to sabotage a new relationship.
- My husband had a three-year affair with a co-worker half his age. He is still with her and she may end up being a stepmother to my children. My ex and I co-parent beautifully right now, adding her to the mix could ruin all we have accomplished. Help?
- How do I cope with feelings of guilt or shame over my divorce?
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Listener Q&A: Co-parenting with a Narcissist, Dealing with a Manipulative Co-parent, and Supporting Your Children Through Divorce
Listener Q&A: Guilt, Denial & Changing Your Name
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.8 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.5 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side |
| 0:34.2 | of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:42.5 | Hey everyone and welcome back. So the Q&A episodes are really popular and since I moved it to a written |
| 0:53.0 | format, you guys submitted so many questions that I |
| 0:56.8 | decided to come back and do another Q&A episode today, this week. I know I did one last week, |
| 1:02.8 | but I got so many questions that I want to make sure that I can answer as many as I can. So, |
| 1:07.5 | here we are. But before I dive into the questions, I want to let you guys know |
| 1:14.0 | that next week, Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, April 11th, 12th, and 13th, I will be doing |
| 1:22.1 | a Facebook live workshop. It's going to be like a three-day thing. I'm going to go live in my Facebook |
| 1:29.9 | group. The should I stay or should I go Facebook group, if you're not in there, get in there now |
| 1:34.2 | so that you don't miss this because I will only be doing it there. And it will be Monday, Tuesday, |
| 1:41.0 | Wednesday at 11 a.m. Pacific, 2 p.m. Eastern. And the title of the series is going |
| 1:48.0 | is, should I stay or should I go? And on Monday, I will tackle the question about he's a great guy. |
| 1:56.9 | He's a great dad. What's wrong with me? On Tuesday, i'm going to talk about is this abuse i think i talk |
| 2:04.5 | about that so much but there are some things that i think um are important to talk about and to |
| 2:12.2 | delineate you know in terms of what is abuse what what is an abuse? And sometimes there's some shocking |
| 2:18.5 | differentiations in there that I think is, that are important. So I'm going to talk about that on |
| 2:22.8 | Tuesday. And then on Wednesday, I'm going to talk about is the grass greener on the other side? |
| 2:27.7 | Because so many people, when they're contemplating, staying, or going, they really are |
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