You really want to learn how to address things when they are small so that they don't get bigger.

And when you speak up, like we just talked about, like acknowledge and take responsibility

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It's the sex education you wish you'd had. A few weekends ago, we were doing our usual Ask Us Anything Sundays on Instagram.

If you're not following us on Instagram, definitely go on over to Vanessa and Zander over there.

Yeah, so we put up a question box every Sunday.

We tell people, hit us with your best questions.

And I noticed that there were a bunch of questions about resentment.

So when I look through the responses to those question boxes,

I'm always looking for themes.

I'm like, okay, let me see what are people asking about?

I want to cover the topics that seem to keep coming up

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