Episode 151: The Hidden Reason You Feel Overwhelmed—Understanding the Mental Load with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

The Best of You

That Sounds Fun Network

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

5 • 710 Ratings

🗓️ 3 April 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the invisible yet relentless responsibilities that occupy your mind every single day? You’re not alone. In today’s insightful conversation, Dr. Alison welcomes psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip, author of a brand new book, A Better Share, to unpack the complexities of the mental load. Dr. Cutlip brings clarity and practical strategies to a topic that often creates tension and misunderstanding within families. Together, they explore: * The definition and dimensions of the mental load—physical, mental, and emotional. * Why women typically bear more of this invisible labor. * How to recognize signs of mental overload and prevent burnout and resentment. * Practical, real-world solutions for effectively communicating and sharing responsibilities with your partner. Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here. Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 122: Navigating Anxiety, Therapy, and Spiritual Formation—Balancing Mental, Emotional, & Spiritual Health with John Mark Comer Thanks to our sponsors: For 20% off your order, head to Reliefband.com and use code BESTOFYOU. Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Visit GoGeviti.com to learn more about how you can start optimizing your health without leaving home today and use code BESTOFYOU. Contact Restoring the Soul today and learn how their Intensive Counseling Process can jump start your journey to the place you want to be. As a special gift for The Best of You podcast listeners, download their pdf called "5 Ways Unresolved Trauma May Be Derailing Your Relationship." I want all my listeners to enjoy a deep, restful night’s sleep with a new mattress from Birch. Go to birchliving.com/bestofyou for 20% off sitewide! Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, I'm Dr. Allison, and I'm so glad you're here to discover what brings out the best of you.
0:11.9	This podcast is all about breaking free from painful patterns, mending the past and discovering our true selves in God.
0:20.0	I can't wait to get started as we learn
0:21.8	together how to become the best version of who we are with God's help.
0:28.9	Hey everyone and welcome back to this week's episode of The Best of You podcast. I'm so glad you're
0:35.3	here today for an incredibly relatable conversation about something that deeply impacts so many women.
0:42.5	It's often unnamed. And I have to tell you, this naming for this phenomenon was incredibly helpful to me and I have a feeling it's going to be incredibly helpful to you as well. It's called the mental
0:54.4	load. So here's a way to think about this. Have you ever found yourself awake at night, overwhelmed
0:59.1	by your mental to-do list, or maybe even stewing about tasks you've handed off to others, but aren't
1:05.1	sure we'll actually get done? If this sounds familiar to you, today's episode is for you. Today I'm thrilled to welcome
1:12.8	Dr. Morgan Cutlipta, psychologist, relationship expert, and the author of two books. Her first
1:18.3	book was Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, as well as her brand new book, which is called
1:22.7	A Better Share, How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex. And here's the thing about the mental load for more fun, less resentment, and great sex.
1:29.2	And here's the thing about the mental load. It does relate to all of those things.
1:34.0	When one person in a relationship is carrying the weight of that mental load, it leads to
1:38.7	resentment, it reduces the amount of fun that we feel in our relationships, and that affects
1:43.3	intimacy all the way
1:45.2	through. So this is such an important conversation to have, and I'm so thrilled to have it with
1:50.4	Morgan. Morgan combines yours, a professional expertise with personal down-to-earth storytelling
1:55.7	that you'll absolutely love. In fact, she starts off today's episode with a story about a birthday party. She was planning
2:02.8	for one of her kids and how it led to a fight with her husband about exactly this thing,
2:07.7	this mental load that we're going to talk about. So we're going to unpack what the mental
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