Episode 146: Blessons of a Breakup with Lindsey Ellison

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Relationships, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.4 • 573 Ratings

🗓️ 9 December 2021

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Lindsey Ellison returns to the show this week. You know her as the author of MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. She has a new book out called Blessons of a Breakup. In this episode, both Lindsey and I share some of our unique experiences with healing from trauma, codependency, or co-addictive relationships. We also explore love addiction and being love avoidant, including what it is, and how it manifests.

For those of you new to Lindsey, she is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse. Our conversation was healing and beautiful for me; I hope it is for you as well.

Show Highlights

Lindsey shares a personal story of resurfaced codependency and the emotional triggers that manifested. (5:23)
What Lindsey learned at The Meadows and how it informed her choice to break up with someone she truly loved due to their copendendent and co-addictive relationship. (11:00)
Being unprepared for the pain of a breakup and in deep pain of grief. (14:32)
Love addiction: what it is and how it shows up in relationships. (15:39)
A love addict's greatest fear is abandonment and an underlying fear of intimacy. (18:03)
Love addiction versus love avoidance. (18:38)
Why Lindsey says the spiritual process matters to the healing of a broken heart. (32:11)
"Our ego is the CEO of all things from the past. Our spirit is only right now." (41:38)
Why Lindsey wrote her book Blessons of a Breakup. (42:44)

Learn more about Lindsey:

Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse. Her newest book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, offers a step-by-step formula on how to create a communication plan and provides a script of empowering "magic" words that can neutralize the power struggle.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.7	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate
0:22.8	some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions.
0:28.5	I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side
0:34.2	of this process with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:42.8	Hey everyone, how's it going?
0:46.8	We are moving deeper and deeper into the holiday season, and we're not going to talk about that today though.
0:57.4	Today I have my good friend Lindsay Ellison back with me. You know her as the author of
1:05.2	Magic Words, How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. But she's got a new book out. And it's really cool.
1:14.9	And there's a lot of personal stuff in this episode from both Lindsay and myself. We share some
1:25.5	unique experiences and talk about them quite openly. But before we get to that,
1:30.9	I want to let you know a couple of things. The first is that starting in January, I have a few
1:39.7	open slots for private coaching. I have a whole slew of clients that are kind of completing
1:45.1	this month. So I've got a few open slots for private work. That is getting on the phone with me
1:54.7	every week. And, you know, I customize my plan. That's really how I work with private clients is that it is
2:03.0	completely customized to what you're going through, where you're at, and helping you move towards
2:10.1	the goals that you identify. So if whether you are trying to decide whether to stay or go,
2:17.4	if that is your goal, we will get
2:18.9	you there.
2:19.4	If you are at the beginning process, beginning stages of divorce and you need help getting
2:25.4	through it, we will absolutely get you through it.
2:28.5	Better informed and stronger and increased amounts of clarity and confidence and all of that.
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