Episode 145: The Burden of Parenting - Part One

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, PhD, P.C.

Christian Parenting, Christianity, Teens, Education, Teenagers, Kids, Kids & Family, Parenting, Religion & Spirituality, Adolescents, How To, Parenting Teens, Parents

4.9 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 5 September 2023

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Where did we get this idea that there's some "inside track" of techniques parents should be implementing to raise amazing children? Is there any evidence that parental influence can guarantee some level of success in their children? Why do so many parents live in fear that they're failing with their kids? Why does this fear burden mothers so much more than fathers? Today we take on the topic we hear most from our listeners. How to share helpful information to parents without burdening them with crushing expectations for themselves. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected] Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

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0:00.0	Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.
0:14.7	I'm Jessica Pfeiffer, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:23.1	Dr. Ken, today we'll be talking about the burden of parenting. The burden. It's such a burden. You just finished what, sending off
0:30.5	you now have two in college. No, no. I have one out of college, graduated. I know. Right. And then I have one that went back for her
0:41.7	sophomore year of college, one in high school, one in middle school. And I am absolutely exhausted.
0:48.7	It's the first week of school. Every parent knows this feeling. You're happy to have them back at school, but also sad that the
0:57.4	carefree days of summer are gone. I'm just tired for you, but I do have the additional joy of,
1:03.2	I don't have to do that. So it's a mixed feeling for me. You get to enjoy. Yes, you get to enjoy
1:10.1	this season. That's right. So, you know, I find a lot of
1:14.3	parents are really tired, truthfully. We're tired in that we overcommit ourselves, but we're also just,
1:22.5	you know, I was told that as my kids got older, that this job would get easier. But I don't always find that
1:29.2	to be the case. I think that in a lot of ways, maybe the emotional side of it is heavier and harder
1:36.6	as they get older. Yeah. But I also see that as a parent, sometimes I take on more than necessary
1:43.3	to help my kids. And I actually make my job
1:47.3	harder, increasingly harder, instead of increasingly easier as it should be as they get older.
1:52.9	And for a lot of parents, you know, they would agree with you. But I find that it's also like,
1:56.6	sure, but what how do I let go of this? I mean, what, what things do I just ignore and be okay with
2:04.0	it? You know, like I would like to not be so burdened, but too often it's like, I don't know how.
2:09.8	Mm-hmm. So I have a friend who, a mom friend, who didn't sign her kid up for a placement test recently.
2:19.5	She was telling me about how she was so upset at herself because she had forgotten the
2:24.9	deadline and she had not signed him up.
2:27.2	And I looked at her and her son is 16.
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